1: Suddenly I felt that it was really difficult for adults to fall in love.

Most people are anxious, anxious to be together, anxious to announce their relationship, and then have conflicts with each other, and they are anxious to break up. In the final analysis, they still don’t like it that much.

The little bit of love I had at the beginning was quickly completed and I was very busy with it.

Even if you stumbling, you will finally meet someone you really like.

But sincerity may not necessarily be exchanged for sincerity, and one-sided efforts are not enough to maintain a relationship.

And luck is better. People like my friend, who have been together for five or six years, like each other, and at the end, they have to consider more realistic issues. I didn’t think so much about being together when I was a student, but now I have to consider:

What about the other party’s family? What should I do if I don’t have a house or a car? What should I do if my parents don’t agree?

Most people have not yet met these problems, and they have not even encountered people they really like.

It will not take a long time to get to know someone, and it will take a long time to get close to someone, and slowly understand that someone is too tired. Even if you have enough patience, it depends on whether others want to.

We all passed the age of being satisfied with a vague love for someone and just needing a little response from the other party.

Anyway, love is so rare, it is not surprising if you can't meet it.

A little sad.

2: "I still love you, but I don't like you anymore."

I think the meaning of this sentence is,

You are still beautiful and touched by my heart.

But I no longer have the courage and strength to hug you.

I can still die with you,

But I will never be for you in this life.

This passage made me particularly touched.

It's like you're still in my heart,

Occupying a very important position,

But I will never have any fantasies about you anymore.

I can't control my unforgettable memory of you,

But there is no longer any expectation about you.

Although I still miss you, I don’t have to.

I want to talk to you well,

Think from your perspective,

But you insist that I want to be so gentle,

When I lowered my posture, I said something even more hurtful.

You never know what I gave up,

My pride, my stubbornness, my self-esteem, my bottom line.

You will never know what I have done for you.

Just like a smoker can never smell the smell of himself,

The loved one will never know how hard it is for the person who loves you.

You go~

I'm going to give back to you,

I will return my heart to you, and I will return my freedom to you,

The sweetest dream about you is returned to you,

Return to you peace, return to you longing,

I will return all my hopes and all my future hopes to you.

3: The only reason you are afraid of getting married is that you have not met the right person yet.

You said no, I was afraid of bargaining for brides, and those who were strangers to each other were like businessmen. I was afraid that I loved you at the wedding, and that quarreling in a blink of an eye would mean divorce. I was afraid that we would not be able to survive the first three years of having children. I was afraid that I was afraid that I would not be able to survive the first three years of having children. I was afraid that I would deal with the relationship with his parents and were forced to compromise. I was afraid that countless financial pressures after middle age would allow me to return to the pre-liberation overnight. I was afraid that the increasingly numb feelings would always have an affair first. I was afraid that he once held my hand but did not accompany me to the end.

I admit that any of your concerns may happen, but that is not the whole picture of love.

It's great that you say "I'm afraid of getting married", there are even some cute little cuties, I'm afraid that you say "I'm not afraid of getting married". That kind of fearless and heroic look makes people feel worried about you and feel sorry for you. Love is not a journey of death. If you are afraid, it's right.

I am not familiar with the place, and I always can’t get used to it. I have to change my tickets, I missed the flight, I didn’t like the hotel, and the scenic spots were crowded. However, I have a guide to travel. I check in at the popular hotpot restaurant in Chongqing, check in at the Beijing Roast Duck restaurant, and squeeze in at the Chenghuang Temple in Shanghai. But when I get married, where do you go to check in? The first stop of the Civil Affairs Bureau, the second stop, the delivery room? The third stop, the kindergarten? To be honest, you and I are the same. When you are in an unknown life, panic is greater than surprise, and confusion is greater than excitement. Who can’t get married? But it’s too difficult to live a lifetime.

If you are afraid of getting married, that's right.

In fact, you are in awe of marriage. You are worried because you really want to live a peaceful life with someone. So, you are afraid of letting down the other person and letting down yourself. When you see that there are so many problems with marriage, you panic. You feel that you are not good enough and not worthy of being loved by someone. You want to work hard to become an excellent person. I understand it, but do you know? Marriage itself is two imperfect people, encouraging, comforting, supporting each other, and slowly becoming better.

You don’t have to blame yourself for not being good enough and everyone is not perfect, so when the person you like passes by, you must hold his hand.

You said you were afraid of getting married because you had experienced the pain of love. You put all your love on an impossible person. Later, he did not marry you and walked into the crowd without looking back. You may no longer be able to love others. I think that the first time I loved, there is no need to regret it. He has given you all the tenderness, and you have loved you with passion. Since the fate is not enough, let go. There is no way. We were too stubborn when we were young and didn't even catch that amazing person. Fortunately, we all understood what cherishing means, so the later lover was called a lifetime.

When you say "I'm afraid of getting married", I know that you're one step closer to marrying love.

Make a list of the options you are afraid of and eliminate them one by one. Sometimes, love is wonderful. Have you ever played games like Elimination? That is to say, the many troubles you encounter in love are actually the same. One day, three encounters together and disappear by themselves.

Many people joke that after getting married, the quality of life will decline. After having children, the quality of life will decline even more.

You see, everyone uses marriage as a safe haven, thinking that after getting married, there is a guarantee of eating a big pot of rice. Who will work hard in the future? Anyway, there is a partner who will bear it. So, later, I can't blame the reality of marriage. Haven't you ever raised your salary in the few years of marriage? Let's ask those people who say that the quality of life after getting married will decline. Have they really worked hard for marriage and worked hard?

This is not how marriage is tied!

You see those couples who are getting better and better after marriage. They have never relaxed, work hard to make money and provide children with a more comfortable life. Who can live a relaxed life? If you don’t want to suffer the hardships of life, then you will suffer the hardships of study. A marriage, not to mention that 1 plus 1 is greater than 2, it can’t even be done. What do you want to do with such a marriage? I don’t believe that two motivated people will make a marriage worse and worse.

What is improving the quality of life?

Many people smiled and told you that the house was rented, but life was not. Look, the rental houses that people changed were poetic and picturesque, and the life was like a petty bourgeoisie. Look at you, as a house slave, people watched the original price ticket for a musical, and they bought it without blinking. What about you, after paying off the mortgage, at most, you bought a group-purchased movie ticket.

Believe it or not, the landlord can let him live with his life on the street with a phone call, and panic with his mobile phone to find out where the nearest budget hotel is.

The house bought by the young couple is not as poorly decorated as home, and no one comes to disturb them. This comfort is to improve the quality of life. After getting married, they fall in love more and more in love with each other, and they feel that the other party will be happy for a lifetime, which is to improve the quality of life. Eating, drinking and having fun is not important, but the important thing is to eat, drinking and having fun with.

What is the quality of marriage? It’s not about how much hardship she has suffered, but when you look at her condition, you will know that she is very happy.

Everyone is outsiders for other people's marriages. You just saw the steak on her plate change to braised chicken. You didn't see her and her husband chatting while eating. You just saw her hesitating in front of the lipstick counter, turned around and bought a large bag of diapers. You didn't see how happy she was when she held the child and kissed her. You just saw her coaxing her child and complaining in her circle of friends that she saw the sun at four in the morning again, and you didn't see the book she quietly placed on the bedside table.

There are many lives you haven't seen.

Don’t be afraid of getting married. Those who work hard will be treated with gentle life.

4: I no longer care about whether the efforts and rewards are proportional to those who are worth it. I start to care whether that person is worth it.

In the eyes of many people, I have become very mature and selfish. The good news is that I know how to love myself, and the bad news is that it is difficult for me to love others again.

This is how growth is, constantly saying goodbye and meeting you constantly, you have indulged in the sweetness of love and also been betrayed by your lover.

Along the way, I have also met many different types of men, selfish and fickle, and after quarrels again and again, I am tired and have enough injuries.

I slowly learned to cast a high south wall for my heart, just like a small bacon, hiding in that small corner inside just to better protect myself.

Yesterday I saw a topic collection on Weibo: Do ​​you still believe in love? Many people gave a reply: Believe in love but it is difficult to believe that you will meet.

I also discovered that it seems that the older I am, the harder it is to take out my heart and give my passion when I meet someone I like.

In order to avoid being hurt, I even began to become a little cold and selfish, and I also knew how to put the conspiracy theories in love into practice.

Learn to watch it and give him some sweetness and hope when you are sure that he really likes you. You have also learned to play hard to get and pretend to use a close and distant way to maintain his freshness to you.

I also learned to weigh the pros and cons and start to analyze all his values, whether they fit what I want.
Chapter completed!