When the authoritative persona is successfully established, you can enter the topic.

Because at this time, everyone who accepts your settings will automatically follow your rhythm.

"Returning to our topic today, the correlation between family environment and education." Wang Shifeng spoke again, and the parents subconsciously sat upright and listened carefully.

"In the investigation report, there is a special family. Both parents are disabled. The mother has hearing level 2, and it is difficult to hear even if she relies on a hearing aid. The father is even more severe and is a standard deaf-mute. But it is such a family that has cultivated

A child with a very high talent for chemistry. When he was eight years old, he was able to memorize 118 tables of chemical elements. When he grew up, he was admitted to several colleges and universities with excellent results. "

Instantly, the venue was filled with exclamations and gasps.

Can an eight-year-old be able to memorize a 118-element table?

I am thankful that my eight-year-old can count to 118!

Is this just a gap in IQ?

However, more parents have realized the key point. This is a disabled family. It is estimated that even daily communication is difficult. How can we raise such outstanding children?

"You must also be curious about how such a family can cultivate an outstanding child. Is it a real genius gene? In fact, it is not. This child's IQ is average, not a special genius. His chemical talent

He was discovered solely because of one reason: the parents' listening." Wang Shifeng said solemnly.

Parents listening?

The whole place was in solemn silence again.

"Because of hearing, the child's mother has learned how to listen carefully to other people's voices since she was a child, and over time has developed the habit of listening. Therefore, during the child's intellectual development period, which is also the 'talkative period' for all our children, this mother no matter what her child says

Whatever happens, I will listen carefully and give you praise and answers.

My father, too, would squeeze out time after get off work every day to listen to his children retell the knowledge they had learned, and then answer the questions. This kind of silent listening and approval from parents greatly increased the children's self-confidence and interest in learning, so the trigger was triggered at the age of seven. Children's chemistry talent.

This kind of listening and approving environment will stimulate children's curiosity and learning abilities, and will build children's self-confidence and adaptability from an early age, which will have an absolute impact on future personality formation.

Parents here can recall the last time they heard their children talk for more than half an hour." Wang Shifeng spoke softly, but asked a fatal question.

It was immediately obvious that many parents present lowered their heads subconsciously.

I can recall the last time I listened carefully to my child. It was probably when I heard him shouting for help for half an hour during a mixed doubles game after I learned that he failed in the exam.

Ashamed!

Instantly, an indescribable feeling of guilt began to permeate the parents' hearts.

Most parents seem to be unilaterally reprimanding and criticizing their children. Let alone listening to their children, it seems that the two parties have not communicated normally for a long time.

"According to the law of conservation of energy, energy will not appear or disappear out of thin air. When everyone hopes that their children will succeed, many of their efforts will be repaid in another way.

When I was a child, I often heard parents say, "How much have I paid for you?" This kind of words is actually a kind of invisible pressure. It is difficult for children to digest after hearing it, and it will have a subtle impact. But if parents listen more and

Encouragement seems to have another effect." Wang Shifeng sighed softly.

The parents looked ashamed, but they also had different opinions.

A male parent stood up and raised his hands and shouted, "Teacher Wang, I have something to say."

Wang Shifeng didn't expect that a parent would want to interact with him, and he was a little surprised.

After communicating with Principal Hu, someone handed over the microphone.

After the parent got the microphone, he started to complain loudly, "Teacher Wang, it's not that we don't want to listen to the children, but we come back from get off work every day exhausted both physically and mentally. If that little brat talks a lot of bad things, Then I will definitely not be able to suppress my anger. I just need an education.

If we talk about some learning problems, it would be even more difficult for us. Although my wife and I both graduated from high school, what we learned has long been returned to the teacher. It was okay in elementary school, and we could barely provide tutoring. After that, we went to junior high school.

, I can’t even understand the question, and I can’t even find the answer on Baidu. If I can’t answer it, the little brat just looks away at me. It’s hard for us to be parents.”

After this parent said this, he instantly gained great recognition from other parents.

The mind is full but the strength is not enough.

"What is this parent's name?" Wang Shifeng asked with a smile without panicking.

"My surname is Zhao." After the Zhao parents vomited their bitterness, they seemed to be in a better mood.

"Mr. Zhao's question is the main issue I want to share today. How should parents communicate with their children? The example I mentioned before is to let everyone know that the impact of the family environment on children is absolute and must not be ignored. As for the

Communication, that's another question. Mr. Zhao, do you communicate much with your children now?" Wang Shifeng asked slowly.

Hearing this, Mr. Zhao sighed, "Maybe it's similar to what Teacher Wang said. We usually discipline him too much, which puts him under pressure. In addition, in the past two years of puberty,

Not only did that little brat not have good academic performance, but his temper was getting worse and worse. Now when he comes home, he goes back to his room without even saying hello, locks the door, let alone communicates, and can't say more than a few words a day. When he sees us

He had a cold face, as if seeing an enemy,

You said that we, as parents, have worked hard all our lives, not just for him? It was obviously not like this when we were young, so why does he become less sensible as he grows up?" Parent Zhao sighed, and you could hear the sadness and sadness in his tone.

sad.

After all, no one wants to get along with their children like this.

It can be seen from the reactions of the parents at the scene that this is the normal state of most families in Xia Kingdom.

"Mr. Zhao, I can understand your mood, but have you ever thought about another possibility?" Wang Shifeng lowered his voice and said softly, "You also said before that he was not like this when he was a child. It sounds like he was like this when he was a child.

I still have a lot to say to you."

Parent Zhao's face was stagnant and he nodded, "Before he entered junior high school, he was still very lively. He would tell us about school every day and occasionally act coquettishly. But after he entered junior high school, he changed. People say he was in adolescence.

.”

"Parent Zhao, this may not be just a problem of adolescence." Wang Shifeng chuckled. The characteristic of Xia's parents is that they tend to blame their children's disobedience on adolescence. "I will give you an analysis from another perspective.

one time."

Parents Zhao were a little confused as to what kind of analysis this could be, but they still nodded.

"When you were a child, you came home and your child came up to you with a smile on his face and shared interesting things that happened at school today. But you were tired after a long day and didn't want to hear this. So you just told him that your father had been tired after a long day at work. You couldn't tell.

? Can you let me rest quietly for a while?

The child looked at your face with impatience, and the joy in his heart finally turned into grievance, and he returned to his room alone, reflecting on what he had done wrong." Wang Shifeng's voice did not contain much emotion, but it was inciting.

The tears of all parents.

In an instant, similar images appeared in their minds.

It's not that Wang Shifeng's description is very good, but because this scene actually happened in their lives, more than once.

In an instant, guilt and pervasiveness took over the high ground again.

Mr. Zhao stood there with his eyes straightened, subconsciously clenching the microphone in his hand.

"Later, when you returned home, your child saw your faces full of exhaustion. He didn't dare to say anything more for fear of affecting your rest, so he quietly returned to the room. When you saw that he didn't even say hello, you suddenly became angry.

, scolding him for becoming more and more rude, forgetting that he is not good at studying, he doesn’t understand anything, he is just raising a white-eyed wolf.

You are venting your dissatisfaction outside, but you ignore the child leaning against the door, wiping tears in grievance, reflecting on what you have done wrong." Wang Shifeng's gentle voice told the story that echoed in the venue.

The sound was like a knife piercing the hearts of the parents, leaving them with a lump in their throats.

"Because he still couldn't figure out what he did wrong when he wanted to share his daily life and not disturb his parents. This problem made the child more and more taciturn. He began to tiptoe around the house, pretending to be a transparent person and trying not to disturb your rest.

While you scold him for being ignorant, you also hope that he can make progress.

He was doing homework in the room, and you called him to eat. He looked at the homework and saw that there was only a little left, and wanted to finish it in a few minutes. However, just after two minutes, you pushed the door open and scolded you in a bad tone, telling you to eat.

Aren't you here? Now that you know you have worked hard, why did you go there earlier? The whole family is waiting for you to eat alone?

The child was stunned for a moment after being scolded. He looked at the homework in front of him and didn't know what he had done wrong in his homework.

Later, when you asked him to eat, he would always immediately put down what he was doing and go to the dinner table. You would sarcastically say that he was very active when he heard about eating. Why couldn't you be more active in studying?

The child clenched the chopsticks in his hands, wondering what he had done wrong while eating.

The atmosphere at the dinner table was depressing, and the occasional sighs from you and your wife made the child feel suffocated. He could only speed up the meal and didn't even have time to eat it. He was ready to escape from this depressing atmosphere, but as soon as he got up, you criticized him again,

You left right after eating, showing no courtesy at all, and you didn’t know how to help your mother clean up the dishes. Your mother has been serving you all day long, and you haven’t learned well at all, and you’re not sensible at all?

These words made the child silently put away the dishes, and when he was helping his mother wash the dishes, he heard his mother sigh and say, housework is just a small matter, just study hard. The whole family is counting on you to get ahead. If you don't study hard, you will be in trouble in the future.

I can only wash dishes for others.

The child looked at the dishes in the sink and was completely confused.

He suddenly realized that everything he seemed to do was wrong."

The calmer Wang Shifeng's tone is and the softer his voice, the more suffocating the story he tells is.

All the parents present did not expect that Wang Shifeng would change a child's "daily" behavior at home and describe it in such a despairing way.

Almost all parents have been substituted.

Because these stories contain the shadow of their families.

At the end of each paragraph, five consecutive ‘What did you do wrong?’ directly prompt parents to reflect on who did it wrong.

So, have you ever done such a terrible thing to your children?

Some emotional female parents burst into tears, while male parents looked solemn and seemed to be reflecting.

Parent Zhao had already lowered his head silently and stared blankly at the ground, seemingly in a daze.

Wang Shifeng stopped talking, and the huge venue seemed to be shrouded in a layer of gloom.
To be continued...