Author: Chop wood and carry water

From a balance point of view, if you think too much, you will definitely forget something. If you want too much, you will definitely forget who you are. Even if you know what you are, you will also forget who you are.

That's it! It's like begging for food. You don't know what this person looks like, and you don't know what kind of person you are. How can you beg for food in such a daze?

It's like you want to flatter someone, but you can't even tell what a horse looks like. What do you think you're filming with so much energy? Isn't it funny if people see you dancing like that and don't know what you're acting?

?Don’t mention it, there are really people who don’t understand this until they die, and some people have never even seen a horse, they just slap it hard in the air, what do you want me to say?!

Yan Tingting originally thought about giving her money and patting her butt and leaving, but after hearing what he said, she immediately changed her mind. Wouldn't it be nice to have someone to help her give her advice? Isn't everyone like this?

If you like something, you want to share it with others. Girls are especially good at it. They bring all the things they like with them just to make you like her.

So when they put on new clothes and stand in front of you and ask you to give her advice, you must understand what her purpose is, otherwise if you accidentally slap it on the horse's hoof, you may not even be a friend.

Do it! Because she is not afraid that she will be wrong, but she wants you to praise her for her vision! The fun in this is the same as going to the mall together with sisters.

Human nature is hypocritical. Good medicine is bitter and good for the disease. Just like the bitterness you can endure now will turn into the blessings you will enjoy in the future! Because it has nothing to do with whether the medicine is bitter or not and whether it can cure the disease. Some people's life

You will enjoy endless blessings when you come down, but some people will eat dirt all their lives.

Those who can reverse the roles between the two are not ordinary people, and for most people, just watch such a beautiful fairy tale and never take it seriously.

So, time goes by but life is short. Don’t waste your life on meaningless people and things, let alone ask for trouble. Just do it if you like it. If it doesn’t work, forget it. There is no need to waste your time talking to others.

The truth is, no one will want to listen to your bullshit advice! Instead of wasting time on that idle mind, it’s better to do something that interests you.

Eating melon and watching a show, casually giving free compliments, and drinking non-nutritious lottery tickets are just doing the cheapest charity in the world. How big of a deal is that?

People just don’t understand this. When people ask you for advice, they really take it seriously. Why do you have so many opinions? If you have to shamelessly find fault with others, you will be exposed.

It works!

In Yan Tingting's heart, this uncle is the living Bodhisattva who is kind and compassionate, while you, Cao Yu, will always be that stubborn and smelly monkey. Do you know why? Because this uncle will always be your uncle! I know that.

Reasoning with her means knowing how to reason with her, but you, Cao Yu, just don’t know the truth!

Cao Yu is the new dress that Yan Tingting has chosen from thousands of people. Now she really wants to talk to her uncle about the reason for this dress. What is so good about it? Tell them all and let's discuss it together! This kind of pleasure can't be shared.

How can you double your happiness by sharing it with everyone? Having fun alone is not as good as having fun. This is called showing off!

With this little thought in mind, Yan Tingting deliberately teased the uncle and said: Come on, uncle! Don't lie to me here, who can't tell the difference?! Those who give you money are good people, and those who don't give money

He is a bad guy, am I right?

The uncle was naturally happy to chat with this cute little girl, so he deliberately kept a straight face, raised his neck and defended: Hey, look at what you said, how could I lie to you! Oh, according to your statement

, Anyone who doesn’t give money is a bad person? We must not think bad things about others. Those who come here are all worshipers. Maybe he happened to have something on his mind and didn’t pay attention?!

Yan Tingting laughed and said slyly: Uncle, you set up a stall here because you think everyone is a good person, right?!

The uncle rolled his eyes at her and said seriously: Not all those who worship Buddha may believe in Buddhism! And those who give me money may not necessarily all be good people!

Yan Tingting was quite surprised by this answer, and she couldn't help but wonder: Oh? Then how can you tell whether he is good or bad?

The uncle said disdainfully: Some people don't say a word, drop their money and run away without even looking at me. I don't think they are any better.

Yan Tingting smiled deliberately and retorted: Didn't you already say that others might have something to do and they might be in a hurry? Why are you blaming them again now?

The uncle stared at her smiling face carefully and looked at it again and again, and then said quietly: Don't you know that these people are all good-looking? The heart can't be deceived. No matter what you say or do, what is in your heart is

Nothing can fool me!

Of course Yan Tingting could understand what the uncle was talking about, so she continued: Since he didn't want to help you, why would he give you money?

The uncle said calmly: There is a saying that you should not look at the face of the monk to look at the face of the Buddha. Since they are here to worship Buddha, they naturally want to show it to the Bodhisattva! There are also some people who are clearly just trying to please their girlfriends, so

Don’t think I can’t see this kind of kindness and generosity that you are deliberately pretending to do.

Look how good this man is at talking! Yan Tingting was so excited when she heard this, she couldn't help laughing and said: Really? Master! Then do you think I am a good person?

The uncle couldn't help but look away from her face and glanced at Cao Yu. Compared with his somewhat impatient expression, Yan Tingting's smile was naturally sweet, sincere and touching. If you can't tell the difference between the two things,

Then put them together and compare them. This is called not being afraid of not knowing the goods, but being afraid of comparing goods.

Not everyone can learn from Yan Tingting's frankness and ease, without any pretense. She can squat down to chat with the uncle, and she also dares to open her mouth and ask for popsicles from the uncle. This unrestrained and generous manner is completely unique.

Because of his strong heart and fearless self-confidence, the uncle felt as comfortable as if he had met a relative.

What is generosity? Being generous does not mean you are generous when you give money to others. It is true generosity when you can give enough respect to anyone. If you don’t look up to the rich, you are neither humble nor arrogant; if you don’t look down when you see the poor, then you can be generous.

Treat each other with courtesy. When you can lower your body but don't fall to your knees, your face will naturally bloom that kind of generous smile, along with the calmness that comes from the heart.

The uncle was obviously infected by her sense of intimacy that did not treat him as an outsider. He nodded repeatedly and said: Of course you are a good person! Just like my daughter, how can you be a bad person! You girl has a really good face.

, at first glance, he looks like a Bodhisattva. In our hometown, this is called the blessed sign of a prosperous husband and wealth. If you want to get a daughter-in-law like you, the betrothal gift must be at least this amount!

As he spoke, he spread out his only palm, stretched it out in front of her with a smile and shook it proudly. This made her look shy, so Xiafei quickly interrupted the words and said: Okay, uncle, don't just grow old.

Why are you praising me? Take a look at him. Does he look like a good person?

When Yan Tingting said this, she just looked at the uncle with a smile, and did not dare to look at Cao Yu, because this was her focus, but she was so embarrassed that she suddenly felt really embarrassed.

I feel a little embarrassed. The feeling of embarrassment now is different from the previous embarrassments. It’s like this kind of shame is different from that kind of shame.

If you want to be shameless, you really want to be shameless; if you want to be shameless, you are really shameless! One kind of embarrassment is because I really feel a little uneasy inside, and the other kind of embarrassment is that I feel that I am so shameless and shameless! Yan Tingting

At this time, the hearts are filled with anxiety, and girls can easily be drawn into the situation. This is why they are so immersed in the theater and pay special attention to the so-called sense of ritual in everything they do.

Asking the Buddha, Yan Tingting has been asking about her heart since then. Now she has finally reached the point where she wants to ask the Buddha. Do you think her heart can stop jumping with excitement? Now here comes the question, which aspect of the wedding do you think is the most touching?

What is the bride excited about? Is it about getting on the sedan chair or entering the bridal chamber? Or something else?

This is really a good question. If you can figure it out, it will benefit you a lot throughout your life. To understand a person is to first understand what he thinks. Everything in this world is ultimately about people.

Learning how to deal with people can help you avoid a lot of trouble. I will omit 20,000 words here. The answer will be revealed later...

When she asked the question, the uncle reluctantly moved his eyes from her face to Cao Yu's face. He must have disliked this hairy son-in-law at first, but who made this girl like him? And this guy can listen.

He persuaded him that even if his heart was not bad, he was doing good deeds for the Bodhisattva. The beauty of adulthood made him feel beautiful, and he smiled and said: Haha, this kid is not bad, you have good vision!

Yan Tingting immediately heard the perfunctoriness in these words, so she asked her about a new dress and asked if Cao Yu looked good. If he answered that he looked good, he must be perfunctory! This kind of question asked by girls is the most clever.

The answer is to answer something that is not the question, but not to go too far away from the question.

If you follow her ideas and don't give free play, you will be driven to death by her step by step. Because her dissatisfaction with you will accumulate as you obey, and her IQ will also increase.

Therefore, it gradually gets higher and higher, and then she will press on step by step, linking each other, each one is a proposition, which is as sharp as a blade, and will not make you feel frightened and lose your armor.

If you run away from the problem, it is considered a minor offense.

The general situation is that if you are not killed, you will be left with no armor, and no body will be left intact. She will never let you go like this! If you don’t believe me, I will show you the whole process:

Woman: Hey, do you think I look good in this dress?

Man (without raising his head): Does it look good?

Woman: Did you look carefully? Come and help me take a look!

Man: Look carefully, it looks really good?

Woman: At first glance, you seem to be perfunctory with me! You didn’t take a good look!

Man: I didn’t bother you! I really looked at it carefully, it looks good!

Woman: Then tell me, what’s good about it?

Man: This skirt is so beautiful!

Woman: Oh, you mean I’m not as good-looking as it and don’t deserve it?!

Man: No, no, you are prettier than him!

Woman: Oh, you are obviously dissing me for not having the vision and not knowing how to match?!

Man: No, no, I think your figure, temperament, and appearance match this dress very well. You two are a perfect match made in heaven!

Woman: Come on! What’s a perfect match? You’re so smooth-talking, and you look like you’re perfunctory with me!

You see, if you follow her conversation, this will only be the result. Even if you have language talent at this time, it is probably difficult to express your thoughts perfectly. The trouble of having nowhere to express will be

You can't help but want to add body language to assist, which will only make you more and more excited as you chat. The result is conceivable, and you will continue to omit 20,000 words...

Now, are you interested in understanding the realm of that kind of specious rhetoric? Here’s an example:

Woman: Hey, do you think I look good in this dress?

Man (raised his head to look at her): Hey, please don’t be a thorn in my side, okay?

Woman: Why am I embarrassing you?! Oh, I asked you to help the staff and give advice, but am I embarrassing you?

Man: This is not a compliment, nor is it a compliment. What can I say about you?!

Woman: What do you mean?

Man: Don’t get me wrong! I just don’t know how to praise you!

Woman: Haha, is it so difficult to tell the truth? I just want to hear your true thoughts!

Man: Hey, don’t ask anymore. Just pack up quickly and let’s go out!

Woman: What do you mean, don’t ask, what are you going out for?

Man: Let’s go out to eat! What else can we do? You bought a new dress, why don’t you go out for a meal to celebrate?
To be continued...