Chapter 861 My mother and uncle are traveling around the county town

Author: Biantang Wushi

Chapter 861 My mother and uncle are traveling around the county town

On the sixth day of the lunar month, it is a good day for those married women to go back to their parents' home to visit their parents' home. On this day, their brothers, younger brothers, nephews, or fathers can do it, but a man must invite her in person to her house to pick her up and stay for a few days. If they are really free, they will definitely take their children back to their parents' home to relive their daughters' days.

If there is only one male at home and only one sister, she will definitely stay at home for a meal at noon, and she will prepare before the New Year to entertain her family members who have come from afar with sumptuous meals. However, if the man has more than one sister, he will definitely go to another sister's house. If she comes to her, she will just notify her. Generally, she will go back to her home by herself after lunch. If there is more than one male at home and more than one sister, it will be easy, but usually she will stay at her sister's house for a meal, hahahaha

Therefore, this day is very important for married women, because in the north, there is a saying that is "My mother is great, there is thunder god in the sky, and there is uncle on the ground". The meaning of this common saying is explained by the elderly in the family, "If the children are unfilial, they will be beaten by lightning, and among relatives, the uncle will be the first to blame and teach a lesson!"

Why does this idea come true? The reason is that the blood between the uncle and the mother is thicker than water. People generally hold a thought - among the relatives of the mother's family, the uncle has the greatest generation. In the traditional Chinese cognition for thousands of years, if a woman gets married, the one who can support her is her mother's family. Among the mother's family, the child's uncle has the highest prestige. If a woman suffers grievances at her husband's house, the child's uncle will help his sister or sister as soon as possible.

I remember that "Peacock Flying Southeast" is an article in our middle school Chinese. I believe everyone has heard of famous quotes and aphorisms in this article. I don't know if you remember one of the situations is that after Liu Lanzhi and Jiao Zhongqing got married, she lived a very unhappy life. Her mother-in-law hated her very much and often didn't give her a good face. So Liu Lanzhi returned to her parents' home to complain to her brother, hoping to get her brother's help and support, but her brother ignored her. In the end, Liu Lanzhi lost confidence in life and was also disheartened by her brother. When she was desperate, she could only hang herself on the southeast branch.

In fact, these old sayings are just literal. Now, with the development of the times, the liberation of ideas, and the spread of socialist spiritual civilization, people have also thought about this common saying, and they unanimously believe that you should not be willful in doing anything, and you must do things according to rules and regulations, and you must not do whatever you want or do whatever you want.

Yes, a new era and a new society, but no matter what, my uncle is still a brother of my mother's family and is also the most important person in my mother's family. Therefore, there is a saying that "mother and uncle are old". In the countryside, at every wedding, one of the several big guests who send the bride to marry must be an uncle. Even if there is no uncle, a distant uncle must be invited to accompany him. No matter how old this uncle is, he often serves as the most important guest in the man. In our place, this uncle is called "marriage-sending uncle".

Moreover, no matter how naughty he is at the wedding, the man will generally tolerate and avoid giving in and never dare to neglect anything. When his nephew grows up, if there are some conflicts with his family, his uncle will communicate with him as a peacemaker, which can play a great role in most cases. Everyone will also give his uncle a thin side. This means that in dealing with family affairs, his uncle's words are still very effective, which once again confirms the saying "mother, uncle is old."

During funerals, if there is a loss of a mother or a wife, the master must report the funeral to his uncle's family in time, commonly known as "black letter". If his uncle's family is not here, they cannot cremate. They must wait until they come and greet them with great gifts, such as three bows and nine bows. When I was a child, I remember that many times women chose to commit suicide because they were wronged at the in-laws' family. During the funeral, they were counterattacked by their parents. At this time, no matter how strong and domineering the family are in daily life, they dare not speak up, nor dare to break the rules of thousands of years, and they can only let the woman's family vent their arbitrarily. However, at that time, I often wondered how unsatisfactory they had to abandon their children and die. If such a thing happened, most men would be single until they died.

Also, in our daily life, every Chinese New Year and holidays, relatives come to visit our homes. When the host family sets up a seat for the relatives to entertain their relatives, it is also very particular to arrange the seats of relatives at the dinner table. Relatives from the uncle's family must sit in the seat of the guest of honor, which is also called "Shangshou" here.

There are neither married sisters in my generation nor engaged sisters, but the previous generation had ones, and I had two aunts. So today, my father and third uncle went to my eldest and second aunt's houses respectively. I guess they would stay there for lunch, but it is unlikely that they would come and stay for two days. First of all, my grandparents have passed away for many years. For them, this family has no parents, which means that the meaning of returning is missing, which is just a little sad. Secondly, they are all at the age of having fun with their grandchildren. Although their daughter-in-law will take their children back to their parents' home these days, spring is about to begin, and there are a lot of things to do, which is really inseparable.

For more than 20 years ago, we were all young and were at home. My mother never went back to my grandma's house for a meal. Although my eldest uncle, second uncle or younger uncle also came to invite me, my mother couldn't worry about us. My father was not at home. If we had fewer brothers and sisters, it would be fine, just take us over. Hahaha, so she had to stay at home to cook for us. Now that we are old, in order to create an opportunity for my mother, we decided to go to the county town. My third brother and sister happened to have an appointment with a few of their good high school classmates in the county town.

To be honest, I am both familiar with the county town and unfamiliar. What I am familiar with is how many times I have passed there since I went to high school, and I have been there for transfers and waiting for the bus there. It’s almost the same as the one who hasn’t been to the bus station. What I’m unfamiliar with is that I have never been to other places except for the bus station. Strictly speaking, it’s not even as familiar as the city. As for Zitong, although she has followed me back to her hometown twice, she is always in a hurry and has never visited the county town.

However, in this season in the north, except for dead grass, yellow leaves and ice and snow, there is actually no scenery to see. It’s just going out for a walk and relax. When the fourth brother saw that we were all out, he also yelled to go with us. Okay, let’s go together.

Our county is an old mining area with a history of more than 100 years, not only coal mines, but also iron mines. According to historical records, since the Qianlong period, the Qing government began to mine coal and smelte metals here. Later, the Republic of China government, and then the Japanese occupied it. Our county is very close to Taierzhuang in Zaozhuang, Shandong, and railways were opened very early. During the Anti-Japanese War, the railway guerrillas, which were famous all over the country, were active between Zaozhuang and our county town. The prototype of the deputy captain Wang Qiang was from the people in our town. I heard that he later became the deputy provincial level.

Not far from our county town is Weishan Lake, a song by the railway guerrillas, "The sun in the west is about to set, and the Weishan Lake is quiet. Play my beloved earth pipa and sing the moving song. Climb the fast train, like riding a galloping horse. On the station and the railway line, we are a good battlefield for us to kill the enemy. We snatch the machine guns of the speeding train, hitting the train, and exploding the bridge. It is like a steel knife inserted into the enemy's chest, killing the Japanese. The sun in the west is about to set, and the Japanese's doomsday is coming."

I think many people can say a few words. Weishan Lake is indeed a good place for tourism, but the time is wrong. This season is full of ice and snow, and there is really nothing fun. You have to wait for summer.

When we arrived at the county town, everyone was busy with their own work. We made an appointment to meet at the entrance of the mall near the station before 3 pm. Before leaving, Zitong handed over her cell phone to her sister for the convenience of contact. We took our fourth brother to walk around the county town. There were really shops that opened, but there were only a few. We looked at the sports goods in a shopping mall. Zitong thought the price was quite cheap, so she bought a sportswear for the fourth brother, plus a pair of sports shoes, and also bought a pair of large leather shoes for her brother.

Before we knew it, it was time to have lunch, but we were in trouble. Why? Because there were almost no restaurants open on the streets, which we never expected before. After all, in Shenzhen, it was open on the first day of the Lunar New Year. We always had to have dinner. So the three of us looked around and searched around and found a vegetable pancake on the side of the road. So we ate a vegetable pancake, drank a bowl of porridge, and then continued to move. At around 3 o'clock, we arrived at the agreed location. My sister had arrived. After a while, my third brother also arrived. Five of us took a taxi back home.

On the third year of junior high school, he received a call from Ding Shishen. He first exchanged New Year greetings with each other, and then he told us that he had bought us two sleeper tickets for No. 29.

Actually, I asked him to buy two soft bedrooms. Since I went back to sit in the soft bedroom last time, I felt that it was really enjoyable. It was really worth it to be more expensive. But he asked his sister and replied that there was no, leaving only hard bedrooms. Hi, it seems that most of the things in this world cannot be as good as others wish and everything is satisfactory. It is not the right thing to do whatever you want. It is to be content with the situation and be content with it.

So, after thinking about it, I felt it was already good. Just sleep hard, and it was a lower bunk. Ding Shishen was also worried and had to thank him very much, so he told him that he would go back to the city to invite him to dinner together in two days.
Chapter completed!