Author: Qingqing Platycodon

Xie Ning discovered that since she first responded to a fan's question in a private message a few months ago, she has been receiving private messages from different fans across the country from time to time. They seem to regard her as a close sister, a confidant, and a

The guide on the confused road.

Xie Ning doesn't find it annoying, but he makes it a habit to answer fans' questions every day.

The system said that from the time she bound it and registered the live broadcast on Penguin account, whether it was her live broadcast or her private message reply, in fact, all her actions were filled with energy.

This kind of energy is invisible to the naked eye, but it will bring her positive and beautiful energy to fans through the Internet.

Therefore, every time Xie Ning sees fans’ doubts and questions, he will think carefully and consider them carefully before replying.

Although he has never experienced the same thing, Xie Ning understands how important it is to have personal guidance when a person is confused. It is important to work hard, but it is even more important to find the right direction in life.

Only when you are in the right direction can you move forward unswervingly, and that kind of effort will be more meaningful.

Opening the private message, I saw several private messages as expected.

Xie Ning picked up the pillow and put it on his back, leaned slightly on the bed, and began to read and reply.

I don't know how long it took, but Xie Ning clicked on the last private message marked in red.

[Hello, sister Xie, I really like watching your live broadcast. I would like to ask, do you look good? Although you are wearing a mask during the live broadcast, I think you should be good-looking. But I have always looked good-looking since I was a child.

What should I do if I don’t look good? I’m like an ugly duckling. An ugly duckling is an ugly duckling after all, and is a different species from a swan. No matter how hard you try, you can’t turn into a swan.]

[...Sister Xie, I have made a lot of efforts, but why am I still so ugly in the eyes of others and myself? What should I do to become beautiful and make others like me?

,Can you tell me?】

It was a very long private message, in which a girl talked about her experience of becoming beautiful. It changed from time to time, and she seemed confused.

After Xie Ning read it, he was really stunned for a while.

Suddenly the word "appearance anxiety" rang out.

Xie Ning knows this word because of Ruan Zhenzhen.

Ruan Zhenzhen was anxious about her appearance before. She spent a lot of time taking care of her face and figure every day, and even thought about having plastic surgery.

At that time, Xie Ning was a little confused. Ruan Zhenzhen was actually very cute and pretty, so why was she worried about her appearance?

Ruan Zhenzhen glared at her at that time and said: "You think everyone is as beautiful as you. However, even those great beauties and handsome guys in the entertainment industry sometimes have worries about their appearance. You have a comparative mentality.

Well, I don’t pay attention to these things, but many people, especially girls, really care.”

Ruan Zhenzhen said that many girls have appearance anxiety.

You may be afraid that you are not good-looking enough, that you will not be confident in front of the boy you like, and that you will not be able to get his love if you are not worthy.

You may be afraid that your ordinary or even slightly flawed appearance will attract criticism and disgust from others.

…

It seems that good-looking girls are always easier to get preferential treatment. If a fat girl with an average price is with a tall and handsome boyfriend, she will always be said to be a toad eating swan meat and will be talked down to boys.

There must not be true love for girls, boys will one day abandon girls and leave.

This is indeed what is commonly seen now and is the superficial reality.

There is also the spotlight effect. Whether it is society, news, or life, there always seems to be a voice urging girls to become beautiful. You must have an A4 waist and a pointed chin...

All the voices are telling you that you need to become more beautiful.

Therefore, appearance anxiety appears.

To be honest, Xie Ning has never had any anxiety about her appearance. Is it because she is good-looking or has a good mentality?

Xie Ning thought it should be the latter.

In fact, when she was young, especially when she was six or seven years old, the little Xie Ning had not yet grown, and her family liked to feed her, which made her very fat. She was even laughed at by other children because she was too fat.

What was she thinking at that time?

Have you ever cried because of this? I don’t think so.

I don’t know if her family members often praise her, give her kisses and hugs, and always say in front of her: My granddaughter/daughter/sister is the prettiest.

As time went by, she became somewhat trusting at that time.

Fat is fat, even if I am fat, I am still the best-looking in the eyes of my family, and I also think I am the best-looking.

At that time, she was raised somewhat trustworthy by the love of her family, and her mentality was really good.

Looking back now, Xie Ning still doesn't think she was ugly or unattractive at that time.

Xie Ning thought that it was probably because of love, because her family's approval, because her family loved her, and because she also loved herself when she was fat and not that good-looking at the time.

Therefore, when people are anxious about appearance, in the final analysis, it is due to a lack of affirmation and love. This love comes from others as well as from oneself.

But in fact, love and affirmation from yourself are the most important.

However, over time, we are accustomed to living in the eyes and words of others, but we have forgotten that loving and affirming ourselves is more important than others loving and affirming ourselves!

However, it is too tiring for people who live in the eyes, evaluations and words of others.

Xie Ning thought for a while, considered the words, tapped the keyboard with his fingertips, and replied——

[Dear, although I don’t know who you are, I am very happy that you like me. You have worked hard and are very brave to have the courage to send me a private message and tell me your experiences and feelings. I also hope that I will

Two small suggestions can give you thinking and reference in another direction.】

[I remembered a sentence I once saw: Roses are beautiful, but you don’t have to grow into a rose. If you are willing, you can be a daisy, a sunflower, or an unknown little flower on the roadside in the country.

You can do thousands of things, be ordinary, ordinary and unique yourself.】

[Roses are beautiful, but other flowers are equally beautiful. It is these colorful flowers with different colors and postures that create a beautiful and hopeful spring. The flowering period of each flower is different, just like everyone, their own

The flowering period is also different. You don’t need to envy others when they bloom, you just need to wait for your flowering period.】

[Not everyone loves roses. Even if the ugly duckling cannot turn into a swan, it is still unique. Maybe, in this world, there are people who like ugly ducklings instead of just swans. Even if no one likes the ugly duckling in the end, then

The ugly duckling can also like himself. Everyone has his own unique beauty, maybe appearance, maybe temperament, maybe self-cultivation, maybe character... What we have to do is to have a pair of eyes that discover our own beauty, beauty,
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