"In other words, do you have pre-marital fear?" I repeated the words of the visitor in front of me. However, I switched it to a questioning statement. The purpose of this is to tell the other party that I am listening carefully, and further confirm and clarify the problems described by the other party.

"Yes, I actually know where the problem lies." The man opposite, Mr. He, looks gentle and has no outstanding facial features, but it has nothing to do with ordinary things. He is dressed casually. He has a pair of glasses on his nose, which is very ordinary. However, the whole person gives people a very distinctive feeling and is quite friendly.

If you want to say the comparison characters, Du Fei is in the deep rain. Yes, Mr. He and Su Youpeng are somewhat similar.

"Oh? I hope to hear it carefully." I nodded and looked at the other person with a very expectant look. This was a kind of silent encouragement.

"Because of the ex-girlfriend's cheating," Mr. He said sadly.

"It must be very uncomfortable for you." I tried to express empathy.

"Yes, if I just cheated, I might not be hurt more." Mr. He's words seemed to be a little indescribable.

"If possible, I want to know what kind of suffering you have encountered. After all, some things are very uncomfortable to be stuck in your heart." Since psychological counseling requires a confidentiality agreement, generally speaking, the other party will not have too much impedance. If so, either the problem is serious or the degree of empathy is insufficient.

"Actually, it's not impossible to say that, after all, you and I are both adults." Mr. He began to create a step for himself.

"Yes." I nodded.

"Uh, that's right, my ex-girlfriend has a very high demand." Mr. He was a little embarrassed.

I didn't answer, just nodded and signaled him to continue.

"She needs two to three times a day on average. I can't satisfy her." Mr. He, who was supported by my attitude, began to complain.

"Teacher Huang, do you know? During that time, my feet were weak almost every day. I looked almost skinny."

"I remember one night, I had to work overtime temporarily. So I couldn't meet any requests she made. She made a big fuss, but when I went out, I poured cold water on my head from the upstairs!"

"Later, she cheated. At that time, I thought it was because I was not good enough and could not meet her needs. It led to her cheating." At this time, Mr. He's face was full of pain.

"This is very painful. If I weren't, I wouldn't be able to stand it. Even, I might not be as good as you." I expressed my empathy.

"She is my first love, and because of her dislike for me, she said that I was not good enough. Even if I knew that it was her abnormal, I was still very shocked. Then, I unconsciously thought it was my fault." Mr. He was a little angry.

"A bad word hurts people for three cold springs, and a good word warms three winters." I responded.

"She is a very beautiful girl." Mr. He handed over the phone. The girl on the screen was charming, lovely, and very sunny. She dressed properly. She was not exposed, but she still showed her graceful figure. She had a sweet smile on her outstanding face.

"It's really beautiful." I nodded.

"Then do you still think it's your fault?" I got back to the topic.

"I don't think it's my fault. Moreover, my current fiancée is normal." Mr. He smiled unconsciously. Well, it's definitely dog ​​food.

"This is a photo of my fiancée." Mr. He handed over his cell phone again.

I glanced at it and was a woman with a beautiful face, and her figure was still graceful. She had a virtuous temperament. I looked calm on my face, but I had a little complaint in my heart. Mr. He, are you here to show off? Of course, this potential psychology is not ruled out. Men are also a creature who likes Versailles. If women are mostly material at the material level, followed by spouse and children at the level. Then men are mostly female at the level of Versailles, and secondly, material at the level of men.

A tacit understanding between men.

"But, I am always unconsciously afraid that my fiancée will become like an ex-girlfriend." Mr. He began to feel a little anxious.

"After all, the ex-girlfriend was not like this from the beginning," Mr. He added.

"Come on, take a sip of hot water first and swallow it slowly. This will make you feel better." I slowly leaned over and gently pushed the water cup not far from Mr. He and pushed it in front of him.

"Thank you." Mr. He picked up the water cup.

"I can understand your feelings very much. If I were me, I would have similar troubles, or even worse. So, in order to solve this situation, can I know something about you about your personal situation?" After listening to Mr. He's confession, I expressed my recognition of him and established a certain amount of trust and links. I was about to start collecting necessary information.

"Yes." Mr. He nodded.

Next, I learned in detail about Mr. He’s original family and growth experience. Well, there was nothing wrong with everything, except for the ex-girlfriend incident.

I was a little scratching my head. This is another troublesome case, which is not enough to reach PTSD. Because Mr. He’s social function is not damaged. In the scl-90 measurement results, the anxiety score is slightly higher. But overall it is still within the normal range.

It is obvious that his ex-girlfriend has planted a negative mark in Mr. He's heart. Mr. Chen's fear of marriage and the anxiety and fear that arises. All of them are reminding Mr. He in his heart that you have a problem but have not solved it.

In this case, long-term psychological counseling is inevitable. The available methods include image dialogue, cognitive behavioral therapy and Nlp technology. However, if the problem is solved, it will take years to be fast, and it will take years to continue. However, the treatment effect is unknown.

After the first consultation, I made preliminary suggestions to Mr. He.

1. Release and initial acceptance, write down the psychological trauma caused by your ex-girlfriend. To be precise, it means recording your inner feelings and emotions at that time with a pen. Then speak out to the record.

Reference statement: I accept you, whether it is good or bad. Because you are also an important part of me, and I will learn from it and look to the future.

2. Meditation, imagine taking a seed from my hands. Then cultivate the seeds in my imagination. After the seeds germinate, you must take proper care of them. Water, remove insects, and prune them. Nothing is missing.

Of course, there is a better healing option in my heart, that is, to fall into a dream. Directly entering the inner world will lead to the root cause of the problem and be removed.
Chapter completed!