I asked the blind date girl, "How are you doing when you go to work on the first day? Are you happy or not?"

The blind date girl replied simply: "It's okay!"

I said, "Oh, I told her that I actually have a phobia for work on Monday!" Psychologists believe that because people are tired of monotonous work and nostalgic for wonderful holiday life, especially when the special holidays like National Day, they suddenly return to heavy workplaces, most people still have symptoms of discomfort, which will naturally cause these phenomena on Monday. From the perspective of human physiology, there is also an adaptation process, especially for physical workers. When their brains and bodies are relaxed, they need an adaptation process to get nervous again.

The blind date girl said in surprise: "No, this is too irritating, there is such a disease!" She said in disbelief.

I said this is true, there is really this disease, and I really have this disease!

She asked me what were the symptoms of this disease? She said curiously.

I said: 1. Place phobia: Place phobia is usually translated as "platform phobia", "wild phobia" or "room phobia". Patients mainly show that they are afraid to enter shops, buses, theaters, classrooms and other public places, places where people gather, or dark and empty places, worried that they cannot bear the extreme anxiety that will arise in that occasion, so they avoid it. They even dare not go out at all, and their dependence on spouses and relatives is prominent.

2. Social phobia: Social phobia is mainly manifested in patients who feel shy, uneasy, awkward, clumsy in social situations, and afraid of becoming the object of laughter for people. Therefore, they dare not operate, write or eat under the gaze of people; they are afraid of gatherings, afraid of getting along with others at the close range, and even more afraid of organizing activities centered on themselves; they dare not speak in public or talk to important people.

3. Specific phobia: Specific phobia refers to the patient's unreasonable fear of a specific object and animal. It often starts in childhood, such as fear of a certain small animal. This phenomenon is very common in children, but this fear usually disappears with age. The symptoms of specific phobia are constant and mostly superior to a special object, such as fear of insects, mice, or knife and scissors. However, in some patients, new fear objects may appear after eliminating the fear of a certain object.

Anyway, as long as I think about going to work on Monday, or on Monday, the specific symptoms of my Monday phobia are: listlessness, physical fatigue, anxiety and irritability, etc. In severe cases, I often have symptoms such as palpitations, night sweats, and trance. Anyway, I have all kinds of fears and there are no specific symptoms!

The blind date girl said, "This is too exaggerated. Is it so serious? You are not teasing me!" She asked as if I was exaggerating the symptoms.

I told her that this is not an exaggeration. This is a real story and it really looks like. Due to the increasing pressure on life and work, people have long regarded weekends as a day to relax, but after the weekend, many people will feel fear or bored of Mondays. This is the so-called "Monday phobia".

The blind date girl said: Even if what you said is true, although many people have more or less "Monday phobia", daily work must be carried out. So, in order not to affect the normal progress of work, how should we overcome "Monday phobia"?

I said this, but how can I overcome it? It’s impossible to overcome it. Think about it, many units will arrange a weekly work on Monday, which gives people the feeling that it is more stressful than usual, so they are relatively nervous. "When I think about completing so many tasks assigned by leaders this week, I immediately collapsed. What do you think!

The blind date girl said she had asked an expert for me. The mechanism of this disease is: the mechanism caused by phobia on Monday is usually caused by excessive work pressure, which leads to boredom, which leads to fatigue and fear of work.

I said it was right. I praised her.

At the same time, it is also based on excessive relaxation during holidays and excessive reversal of biological clocks, which leads to a downturn in work, which leads to a downturn in spirit, anxiety and tension at work. Workers are prone to fear on Mondays because from Monday to Friday, people will put their whole body and mind into study and work, forming a "motive stereotype" that is compatible with study and work, and putting everything outside of study and work out of it.

I said yes! I'm sure she.

On Saturday and Sunday, we focus on dealing with things beyond study and work. At this time, the "dynamic finalization" established from Monday to Friday was destroyed. Once the weekend is over, the "dynamic finalization" that was destroyed by the weekend is rebuilt, so that new discomforts will arise.

I said it was right. I continued to praise her.

In addition, due to people's boredom of monotonous work and nostalgia for holiday life, people's nervous system is not excited enough on Monday, and it is difficult to adapt to the fast-paced working style at once, which will naturally cause discomfort.

I said that's it. I'm very sure of her.

It can be said that Monday is a dual "transition period" between the mind and the body, and another "start period" of the week, so it is more likely to cause a difficult time to get rid of sleepiness. Moreover, because people are worried that Monday will face new tasks, they actually give themselves psychological hints and psychological pressure unconsciously. If you think this day will be a bad day, then it is really possible to become very bad.

I said you said it was so good, just like a real expert. I was like this. I asked her if my disease was cured? Can it be done? Is it serious?

The blind date girl said that it could only be relieved temporarily and could not be cured, but she still told me not to be discouraged. She told me that it would be fine, but it was not a big problem. She told me that it would be fine. She told me that the specific solution was:

Early work arrangements

There are two levels of this. The macro level is to make a good career plan and find a job that you can satisfy. In this way, the psychological background is to be positive. On the micro level, it is to make arrangements for next week before the weekend holiday, especially to make detailed and specific plans for Monday's work. Be careful not to arrange too much and too full on Monday, so that you will not be anxious when you are on Monday.

Ensure physical and mental health

A good physical health and a peaceful mental state are long-term mechanisms to reduce the phobia symptoms on Monday. A person with a mentally healthy person has an objective understanding of his family, society, career and work, and has reasonable expectations. A person with a calm mind will not have much pressure on Mondays. Sleep well on Sundays

The day before Monday is very important. Of course, it is OK to have a trip, but you have to arrange your sleep, don’t go to bed too late or too early. Also, you must immediately tell yourself after Sunday supper that the weekend has passed and you must prepare for your Monday work next.

Learn to relax yourself

On Monday, use a few minutes before starting work to sit comfortably on the sofa, deliver the resting thoughts to all parts of the body, then relax your toes, and then gradually relax your ankles, calves, knees, and thighs; when it relaxes to your shoulders, turn to the tips of your fingers; finally, relax in the order of your neck, face, and head.

After the whole body relaxes, adjust your breathing, focus on the navel, slowly get your navel toward the back, and exhale; then inhale slowly and naturally into the body. At this time, Xiaoxian, you can meditate on "It's so comfortable" or "I'm fine, really good, and you'll start working easily in a while."

I asked her if this is true? Is it really effective? Can it really relieve my symptoms? Isn’t it really a big problem?

The blind date girl said: "You try it first, and I don't know if it can be applied to you. Everyone's condition is different, and the seriousness of the disease is different. It depends on your own luck!"

I said it was my luck. When I thought my luck was too miserable, I also looked at my luck. It seemed that I was really helpless this time.

When a blind date girl says fear, there must be a reason for fear? If "Monday phobia" occurs for many weeks, then this is not a problem that can be left to the point. This is an important sign that you are not satisfied with your job and you need to solve this problem or find another job. To overcome "Monday phobia" at the root, you must try to actively find out the problem and think about the solution.

I said you meant to ask me to quit my job, right?

The blind date girl said: "I don't mean that, I just say that! I think sometimes, there are a lot of unfinished work left in the last week, so the new Monday will be tricky or scary. To help solve the anxiety on Monday morning, make sure to leave as few difficult tasks as possible when leaving on Friday afternoon."

I said I am not stupid again. We do physical work. The boss will not praise you or add an extra penny to you when you have finished it. He will only arrange more work for you next week. That's it.

The blind date girl also said: "The onset of phobia on Monday is usually from Sunday afternoon to evening. When you wake up on Monday morning, you can no longer tolerate any "fear" and anxiety, but you have to devote yourself to a new week of life. Generally, "fear" occurs in the process of imagination and waiting, without practicing the brain before practicing it, and when you "face", you are usually much more cheerful and enthusiastic, "doing" is both brave and happy than "thinking".

I said, don't mention the weekend. When I was about to relax with my relatives and friends on the weekend, I thought I could not bring work problems into my life and focus on enjoying the rest time. But this matter of going to work tomorrow always haunts me. When I think that going back to work on Monday would be particularly frustrating, I unknowingly let the work sneak into my rest time. So you said I was not happy, and I couldn't even feel that I had a weekend.

The blind date expressed that I was partially agreeing with my feelings, but she told me: Monday's workload may be the biggest in a week, but we should also actively adjust our work status when working and not be resistant to work.

Arrange to do something you like to do in the office on Monday, and chat with colleagues in the office when you feel tired and share interesting things about the weekend. This will not only relax yourself, but also strengthen your connections in the office.

I said stop talking, what can we talk about? The most they talked with me was to ask me to find a girlfriend. Whenever I mentioned this topic, I felt even more uncomfortable than phobia on Monday!

The blind date girl also said: Then the appropriate system of relaxation plans after get off work can make your heart look forward to it and help improve work efficiency. For example, go shopping with friends after get off work, or go home to make delicious meals. Avoid being busy with work all day on Mondays and relaxing your subconscious mind.
Chapter completed!