16. If you have to show off, please add your embarrassment. The "Mama people's words and deeds" specifically talks about this article. If you want to show off your success, you must attach your embarrassment to resolve the embarrassment caused by your success and prevent jealousy. If you have to say, "I bought a bag worth 30,000 yuan", please add, "Just just carried it out, my friend asked me that this copycat bag is very similar, A-go, it costs 1,000 or 2,000 yuan, and then you ask her to buy one like this to see, and he shut up"; if you have to say, "My family bought a big villa, which is only 10 million yuan, and they don't live in it", please add, "I, a local bumpkin, put wax on the stairs, and just moved in, I fell a dog to eat shit, but fortunately no one saw it"...

17. Change "Do you understand what I mean" to "Did I say it clearly? Don't say good things twice". "Do you understand what I mean? Are you Sabi?" "Did you understand what I said? I will say it a few more times!" The words that seem normal are actually inappropriate, because it will have a hint: Do you understand what idiot? Can you get my point? If you are Sabi, you can't. If you are not, you should understand it! If you change it to "Did I explain it clearly? Do I not explain it clearly?", it is not accusation, but self-blame. It means that if I don't explain it clearly, I can repeat it again. Is it more polite?

18. It will be more pleasing to say the little vulgarity in your heart. I don’t think that people with high emotional intelligence are all the Holy Fathers, and they must be selfless. But if you have selfish thoughts, you might as well say it directly. If there are two apples, one small and the other big ones. If you want to eat big ones, there are two ways to directly give the small ones to others and the big ones to yourself, the other party will think you are really selfish; if you say "I want to give the big ones to you, but I can't bear it, can you not give it?", you are also selfish, but you are very selfish. Anyway, I won’t do this, I will take them all away, and I will not let you know that I have two apples. If I let you know, either I am a silly Bi, or I am still a silly Bi!

19. Use interesting ways to make yourself laugh and become your own high-end blackmail. In college, a roommate said that she hates me a lot, but there is one thing she thinks she is very cute, that is, I like to make fun of myself. Every time I make myself laugh, she will like me again. Self-deprecating requires strong hearts, shamelessness and a sense of humor. Every time I tell my own embarrassment stories into jokes and live a joke. God instructed me to be so badly criticized before. When she started to make herself ridiculous, how many people turned to fans of her? No, she was black.

20. One of the ways to comfort others is to say something miserable about you and let him heal. When others are sad, the only way to heal is to know that you are not the worst. For example, a fan told me that her boyfriend cheated on him. The key is that when she knew about this, he had cheated on him for two years. Everyone around him knew that she was the only one who didn’t know. She thought about committing suicide... I replied, my ex-boyfriend cheated on him for five years. How did I know? His cheated partner had lived with him for more than a year, and came to me and said

I really can't stand it anymore. I have never seen such a stupid woman like me. I was stunned and went to question my ex-boyfriend. He kept talking and told me directly that he started cheating just now. We had been in a long-distance relationship for ten years and cheating for fifteen years. All his friends knew that I was still stupid. I always thought he was good to me. I am forty years now and I am still waiting for this man. You tell me if I am stupid. The fans are feeling much better after hearing this. It seems that there is really no shortage of people in this stupid world.

21. Don’t talk about your pain endlessly. Pain is inconsistent. People with high emotional intelligence will try to understand and understand other people’s pain to the greatest extent. They will have empathy. At the same time, they will not ask others to do the same. Therefore, they will not talk endlessly when encountering problems, will not spread negative energy to others, but will only pass it on to you quietly.

22. Don’t say “I told you a long time ago” “I knew it would be like this”. We have reminded the other party for many things, but the other party will still do it. If you are frustrated, suffer losses, or be deceived, we can’t help but say, “I have said it long ago”… One Spring Festival, I insisted that the whole family go to Macau to play. Student Zhang said that there are many people, but I don’t listen. As expected, there are many people. We queued up for more than 5 hours after passing the test. I insisted on getting my pass by myself. He said that I’m prone to losing everything, so it’s better to give it to him.

But I lost my pass, so we couldn't find a place to live. We sat in the McDonald's overnight... Every decision I made was wrong that time, and it led to the worst result, but he didn't say "I've said it long ago", but asked me to solve the problem by myself, and they all left because he told me, "I've said it long ago". I am very grateful to him. If you say it more, you will die. From then on, I will never say this again.

23. During the chat, if the other party is interrupted, ask: What were you going to say just now? Sometimes we even accidentally interrupt the other party. While apologizing, remember to remind the other party not to interrupt me. Believe it or not, I will kill you. What you mentioned just now is... let the other party feel that what he said is respected.

24. Don’t want to win every conversation. If you win, you may lose your relationship. Especially for your family and your good friends, don’t be so competitive. I often see some people who argue and turn against each other for the sake of braised eggs being delicious or tea eggs being delicious. Is it necessary to argue? Apart from the big troubles, give the victory to the other party. Of course, others have to ask us for it first, so we can’t give in.

25. If you talk about eating topics, you must remember what the other person likes to eat. As a foodie, I am naturally sensitive to things related to eating. At the same time, I will pay great attention to whoever likes to eat. In this way, when you eat together next time, you can order the dishes that the other person likes to eat. Of course, it is the dishes that I also like to eat. We order the overlapping ones, and don’t order the non-overlapping ones, because we don’t like to eat, so why should we order it. Many beautiful interpersonal relationships come from such small details.

26. When sharing glory, mention others. Remember someone praises God and instructs his brother, and he sincerely tells the crew that everyone suffers together when filming, but the only actors are often praised, and he feels very guilty. This is a manifestation of high emotional intelligence. Such people are the most false, so don’t pay attention to them. In life, you are praised by others, you gain benefits, and you need to share your experience. Don’t forget to mention people who are helpful to this matter at these times.

27. When taking responsibility, I mention others and I will completely blame them. I hate those who shirke up the responsibility the most because I have no responsibility, and it is the responsibility of others, so I hate those who shirke up the responsibility the most! So I have developed a habit of finding my own problems in everything and first reviewing myself. So whenever there is any problem, the first thing I think of is to admit my mistakes.

28. Don’t get angry. God instructs my brother to say that getting angry is a distortion. Hu Shi is a representative of high emotional intelligence. Almost no one has seen him get angry. Learn to manage his emotions. Take a deep breath for 10 seconds when he is angry and give yourself a buffer. Think about it, “This matter is so serious that you can only solve it by getting angry. Yes, come and see me, will you beat me to death”? Is there a better way to deal with it?

29. If you refuse others, you can blame yourself first. For example, many people ask me for an article, and I will say, "You have a very bad character, you are a super procrastinator, and you often let go of pigeons. The most responsible way you are to me is to not accept this article. Really, please forgive me." Well, you are all such people, you are the most hateful. You don't accept my article. Do you feel bad about it? Others have to say, "Okay, then I will cooperate again in the future."

30. When seeking cooperation, don’t always say what I want or what I can give to the other party. People often come to you, and God instructs my brother. If you want to cooperate with me on a project, then he will start talking about what he needs and what effect he wants to achieve. If you participate, his goal or wish will be achieved. He forgot one thing, I am neither your father nor your mother. Why do you want to fulfill my dream? When looking for a job, many people always say how much you need this job. What I should say more is, what can I bring to this company and this position, and give the other party a reason to choose you.

31. Even if you are the most familiar and intimate person, please remain respectful and patient. Many people are polite to strangers, but are extremely impatient with family, partners or friends, and often turn against each other. Because they will not get angry, why not leave your tenderness and consideration, your happiness and beauty to the person who loves you the most? So, if you dare to turn against me, do you believe it or not, I will not beat you to death.
Chapter completed!