From a psychological point of view, the so-called self-inflation means that a person's self-confidence exceeds his or her actual situation and evolves into blind arrogance and arrogance. [`Novel`] Excessive self-confidence is not only harmful to mental health, but also

It will also have a negative impact on interpersonal relationships. First of all, self-inflation is essentially an over-compensation for oneself when a person lacks sufficient self-confidence. It is a manifestation of inferiority; conceit and inferiority are like a coin.

The front and back are inseparable.

People with self-aggrandizement will intentionally or intentionally use more self-aggrandizement mechanisms to protect themselves, showing disdain, derogation, and cynicism toward others, which also makes it difficult for colleagues to get along with and work with them.

In addition, self-expansion can easily lead to a vicious cycle.

In the case of self-expansion, a person will often avoid accepting his own sense of weakness by avoiding reality, so his ability to judge and test reality will become worse, and he will not be able to accurately evaluate himself or the objective environment.

, which will make it difficult for them to make reasonable predictions about the future. As a result, they will fall into a new vicious cycle of "frustration-inferiority-defense-self-expansion".

This is just a psychological description of the phenomenon of self-inflation, but I don’t know if Secretary Chen is accompanied by inferiority. What happened to Kang Demao in the past was actually a kind of self-inflation, and he must have inferiority in his heart.

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The mayor of Chen City was very unsatisfied when he worked there. Because he did not get along with the municipal party secretary and was suppressed everywhere, so I think he still has an inferiority complex in his heart.

Because of this, when he arrived in Shangjiang City and took up the post of Secretary of the Municipal Party Committee, when the power in his hands reached a height that people can restrain, it was inevitable that he would be in such a situation.

I remember a famous person said something like this, and the truth behind it is this——

The imbalance in the human heart is due to uneasiness. Therefore, arrogance and inferiority are deeply connected, because there must be ups and downs. If the mind is at ease, it will not show such unbalanced emotions. Because people have a strong desire to compare, not only with

When you compare yourself with others, you also compare yourself with yourself in your memory and your ideal self. Some extremely arrogant people just hide their inferiority complex so deep that ordinary people cannot dig it out. There are those with inferiority complex who, if they have a chance to gain power,

And he will be incredibly arrogant.

I suddenly remembered what I asked Secretary Yang: If you go to a certain place to serve as the secretary of the municipal party committee in the future, will the same situation happen? He answered me: It’s hard to say. In fact, we are the ones who don’t know ourselves the most.

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I think he expressed the worries and confusion of a politician. His answer showed a kind of truth.

In fact, I am also thinking about this question. If one day I am lucky enough to sit in a position like Secretary Chen, will I also have self-aggrandizement?

I don’t know. Because a person cannot reflect on himself when he is in a state of self-aggrandizement, and he thinks he should be like that. When many people finally wake up, it is already too late.

But I believe I might not, because I will always remind myself, and I am not the type of person with a strong personality.

Since the rift in the relationship with Secretary Chen, especially after he refused to talk to me alone, I felt a lot more relaxed: Just forget it if you don’t talk to me, I’m too lazy to care about those things. So, I

He only cares about his own duties, pays great attention to details in everything he does, and tries his best to report to Mayor Liu before making a decision.

Mayor Liu's attitude towards me has changed a lot, and I also found that every time he gave me his opinions, he was very insightful, and some of his ideas were more advanced and applicable than mine.

Who said he was not familiar with government work? It turned out that he had been hiding his clumsiness before. Now I understand and understand this person.

Of course I know why he changed his attitude towards me. Mayor Liu must have taken note of his attitude towards me when I went to toast Secretary Chen that day and when we went to greet the deputy governor together.

But I was surprised: Mayor Liu never came to ask me what happened between Secretary Chen and me.

This is also a kind of tolerance. And this kind of tolerance is not something that anyone can achieve. From this point of view, he is not as simple a person as I thought before.

Now I believe in one sentence even more: if a person can sit in such a seat, there must be something special about him.

I do my own thing carefully every day, and from now on I try not to attend any dinner parties other than work. I always go back to the provincial capital if I don’t have anything urgent to do on the weekends. I spend Saturdays at home with my children and my mother, and Sunday I go to Zhu Dan’s place.

Now Zhu Dan has been officially transferred to the provincial TV station and has become the host of food, real estate and lifestyle programs. I will also watch her abbot’s program in the evenings when I am working in Shangjiang City. I feel more cordial every time I see her.

.She is so beautiful, and there is a special kind of elegance and confidence in her movements. She is my woman.

When she was first transferred to the provincial TV station, I once asked her how she got Zhong Feng’s promotional expenses. She smiled and said, “It’s very simple. I made the program and then recorded it.”

I took the tape to her and asked her to read it, and she immediately agreed."

I was very surprised, "Is it that simple?"[

She smiled and said: "It's very simple. I positioned her restaurant as a real food culture, a very unique food aesthetic culture, rather than a traditional advertising form.

, so she was very satisfied when she saw it. Moreover, after the show was broadcast, the effect was very good. It is said that if you want to eat at her restaurant now, you must make a reservation half a month in advance."

I immediately praised her and said, "You are so awesome. Now I regret it."

She looked at me with doubtful eyes, "What do you regret?"

I smiled and said, "You are so outstanding. Transferring you to the provincial TV station is really a big loss for our Shangjiang City."

She immediately laughed, "You just know it now? It's too late."

She is indeed very confident, and perhaps this is the real reason for her success. I thought to myself.

Later, she also told me that the ratings of the program she hosted were very good, mainly because the previous programs had good results, so many businesses came to ask for coverage of their companies.

"I will make a lot of money in the future." She held my arm and said to me with a smile.

I said: "You are a girl, there is no need to work so hard."

She smiled and said: "It's not hard work. Now I can get a commission for every program I do."

I immediately laughed and said, "Congratulations, you are rich."

She was a little embarrassed, "Don't laugh at me! The little money I earn is not enough for your change. However, I think making money is a very happy thing, because I earned the money myself.

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I couldn't help but put my arms around her waist. I like her sunny attitude, which is also the cutest thing about her.

In fact, I also like my current life. It is simple; although busy, it is very fulfilling; weekends are my warmest days, which makes me always feel a sense of happiness.

However, my happy life soon turned upside down when Zhuang Qing came back.

She came this time for the launch ceremony of a TV series that Dong Jie had just invested in, in which she was the starring role.

Zhuang Qing called me before coming back, and then Dong Jie also called and told me about the incident. I knew the time Zhuang Qing arrived in Jiangnan, because Dong Jie hoped that I could go with her to greet her.

I couldn't bear to refuse Dong Jie's request because I felt deeply sorry for her. So I agreed.

At that time, there were many people who went to greet Zhuang Qing, and many reporters sent by the media went to report. I noticed that after briefly saying hello to Zhuang Qing, I immediately stepped aside. There was a dinner party next.

It was a small-scale banquet hosted by Lin Yi himself. However, before that, Zhuang Qing would briefly accept interviews with reporters at the airport. In fact, this was to promote the upcoming TV series.

The driver Xiao Cui was very excited today. He asked me: "Mayor Feng, are you familiar with Zhuang Qing?"

I smiled and said, "You don't know, she used to be in the same department as me, and she was a nurse in our department. And we are good friends."

He was very surprised, "Mayor Feng, I would like to ask her to sign her name for me, can you?" [

I immediately laughed and said, "It's very simple to sign. I'll let her take a photo with you later."

He immediately became happy, "Really? That's great!"

I quickly reminded him: "Don't get excited, ease off the accelerator."

Lin Yi arranged the dinner in the VIP area of ​​Nanyuan Restaurant. I didn't expect that Governor Huang was also there.

"Kid Feng Xiao, it's been a long time no see." Governor Huang greeted me with a smile. I was a little excited because he hadn't called me that for a long time.

I hurriedly went to him and said to him respectfully: "Governor Huang, hello."

He said to me with a "hehe" smile: "You have done a good job in Shangjiang City. The industrial park you are responsible for is being built very quickly, and our projects with Japan are also progressing very smoothly. Recently, many people have been working in our country.

I praise you in front of you."

Lin Yi said with a smile next to him: "Feng Xiao is very capable, and he also has great ideas and thoughts. Governor Huang, can you put some pressure on him?"

Governor Huang raised his head and laughed, "That's a matter for the Organization Department of the Provincial Party Committee. I can make some suggestions."

I hurriedly said: "Those things now are very difficult for me. Being able to do the current things well is already very good for me."

Governor Huang laughed again, "Modility is a virtue, but being too modest is not good. In fact, the leaders are very clear about how well our cadres are doing. If they are gold, they will shine and they will be given high priority in the organization.

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Lin Yi smiled and said: "The leader is wise!"

Governor Huang pointed at him and smiled, "Boss Lin, you do the same thing when flattering me."

We were chatting, and after a while I saw Huang Shang come in. He whispered something into Lin Yi's ear. Lin Yi frowned and listened, then he stood up and immediately said to Governor Huang: "Huang

Governor, I'm going out for a moment. Many reporters are following me here."

Governor Huang immediately frowned and said, "Didn't the Provincial Public Security Department arrange for people to be on duty outside?"

Lin Yi nodded and said, "Yes. I'll go out and make arrangements."

Governor Huang nodded, "I'll avoid it for now and go up there to rest for a while."

Lin Yi said: "That's okay. But don't worry, we will do a good job in safety."

Governor Huang took his secretary, and Lin Yi hurried out. Huang Shang followed him. He smiled at me when he left, "Doctor Feng, I haven't seen you for a long time."

I smiled at him.

At this moment, no one knows the complicated and uncomfortable feeling in my heart, because I suddenly thought of what happened after Zhuang Qing's brother got into trouble.

Zhuang Qing called me at that time, and Zhuang Yu was released even after I rejected her in embarrassment. Until now, I didn't know which leader helped her, but now, I know it very well.

There is no doubt that it must be Governor Huang.

From this, I thought of what happened during those times in Beijing. Now I suddenly realized that Wu Shuang, the former office director of our Jiangnan Provincial Office in Beijing, actually exchanged Zhuang Qing for his resignation.

I remember Lin Yu vaguely told me about this matter at that time.
To be continued...