Are you often regarded as a joke and often used to create an atmosphere among the crowd?

Do you often become the child that is not good for your parents?

Do you have some friends who joined later suddenly had a hot fight with your friends circle, and in the end you became an outsider?

Do you tell your best friend that you must not tell others about this, but the whole world knows about it the next day?

There is no doubt that these people are getting the emotional value they want with you.

Some people may have a better personality, or are more generous, and can joke around, just smile and smile.

Some people may feel that whether they are really humorous or real dog-licking, they can provide emotional value to these people. They will ignore the insults and belittlements in this and continue to provide corresponding emotional value to these people.

This is a word that I often hear later: materialization.

Being a dog licking means objectifying yourself.

Some people have sensitive personalities and may not like to joke.

Not so social.

In this case, it is easier to get stuck in the slightest way, and these seem to be malice, but have extremely rich potential information to cause mental breakdown.

It seems that it is not very common, right?

But if you recall carefully, there are still many such situations.

Comparison between children in big families.

The one with poor grades will always be in a bad place.

It’s okay if your parents protect you a little.

What I fear most is that my parents take the initiative to take it out as jokes for others.

Think about it again, when I first entered junior high school, if that girl suddenly had menstrual period.

What was the reaction of the male classmates at that time and what was the eye contact between them, maybe they never said a word.

If it was the look of looking up and down, wouldn’t it be a bit a little bit awkward to think about it?

Think about it again if you first enter the workplace, because of your parents or a relative, you may get some opportunities, and the people next to you gather together in groups and often say things, and the look they look at you.

At these times, will you feel embarrassed, ashamed, angry, or even emotionally out of control?

Many years later, in a live radio room.

The male host was interrupted by the female host many times, and in a tone that everyone understands, similar to words like, haha, right and right, and other words that made the male host break the defense on the spot.

All the public opinion voices at that time, coupled with the boxer's push, the male host was almost wiped out!

Old PUA and old psychologists, you can actually know just by looking at this.

The male host's emotions have been completely influenced.

It seems that the female host may be the victim, but in fact, the male host received the emotional value provided by the female host to him, which was only negative.

So when some words, similar to code words, are more obvious, such as Haha, yes, yes, and yes, when such words appear, they are like blowing a dog whistle, making the man feel pain and humiliation, and he will explode.

The more angry he gets and the less qualities he is, the more people around him will feel that it is his problem.

At this time, it seems that the victim just stands up and apologizes to everyone, "I'm sorry, maybe I didn't pay much attention to my own way at work, which brought the audience a bad listening experience. I'm here to the leader.

Apologize, apologize to the audience, and apologize to my colleagues.”

This kind of social dynamic is released again.

The future of the male host is basically ruined.

Then some people want to know that if they fall into a big net that others have woven for you through a lot of hardships.

How to get out of this environment?

1. Destroy their rhythm.

For example, when their topics are transferred to you.

Exaggerately breaking their rhythm.

"Wocao, this dish is so delicious, try it quickly."

"Come on, don't just chat when you drink."

"What song do you want to sing? I'll help you."

"Whose feet are so smelly?"

No matter what method is used, interrupt their chat rhythm.

He behaves roughly, his tone is gentle, and he is accompanied by a smile.

Specially targeting the person who is provoking trouble, as soon as he speaks, you will change the topic.

2. Learn to discover the shining points on yourself.

Then you have to say that the brightest point on my body is my bald head, and there is nothing we can do about it.

If you really can't find the highlights on your body, you're also very depressed.

Go to exercise, go to pick up irons, and go to run.

I am healthy and have strong muscles. I can run three kilometers for the first time, five kilometers for the first time, and half a horse for the first time...

The oil on the belly was gone, and the vest line had a clear trace.

Every time you sweat and exercise will make you feel full of presence.

By that time, it is always the one who provides emotional value to yourself, not others.

From "others think of me" to "I think of me".

Then from "I think I" to "I am".

Such a change may take a little time, and it may change slowly...

But, as long as you are doing it, it takes a little longer, and suddenly one day you look back, good guy, and then the change has been so big.

Exercise is just a way.

You can also read books, read a lot of books, so that there can be no only one voice in your mind.

If you look for the book of two people who are most powerful in reality, their views must be very opposite.

Let yourself always keep thinking and don’t follow the crowd.

Be an independent thinking person.

Gradually, you will find that the evaluation of you in the circle around you becomes less important.

But you are not afraid to deal with them. You can look at them calmly and wisely, listen to them, and watch them twitch.

You can also go to the lively cafe and order a cup of American coffee, not for taking photos or for showing off.

It’s just to listen to the bragging of office workers.

Go and see the operating methods of all walks of life and give yourself some blind spots.

When you are not bragging in a field that you are not good at and always want to give guidance to others, ask yourself if you really understand?

Ask yourself, does the other party really not understand?

When you are a person with super cool physical fitness.

When you are a person with cultural knowledge.

When you are a person who is curious about the unknown world and wants to constantly explore.

Who has the time to care about what the garbage circle around you comments on you?

Of course, you have to say that I am old and can't read books.

Bad knees and poor exercise.

If your waist is not good, you can't rub your iron.

Those books with too much cultural flavor cannot be read and cannot master the core.

Go fishing! Can't you catch it? Go to the vegetable market to buy a 10-pound pound weight, carry your fish rod and fish and walk around the community for a few times, and you will get a bunch of praises. The fishermen in the community will provide you with

Full of emotional value.

This doesn't work either?

Then go to the club. The princesses are so sweet-mouthed. They have a pair of gazes that are good at discovering their strengths.

The club is too expensive? Go to Sasa Dance, there is always a place that can make you happy and can provide you with emotional value.

With bright spots, self-confidence, and the ability to think independently, you can provide yourself with emotional value.

What are the so-called dog-whistle-style abuse and emotional manipulation rules for you?

3. Stay away from the garbage circle and stay away from the Virgin who advises you to be generous.

(After writing this, I will use this plot to give you some practical information. It is a guide to avoid pitfalls. I hope it will be helpful to everyone. I wish you a healthy body, a healthy mindset, and a full positive in the new year.

Emotional value.

Thank you for the great certification given by Zi Renzhi, thank you for the great certification given by Jiujiujiujiu, thank you for the great certification given by Lin Xuan and Qingyu, thank you for the great certification given by Xiao Wang, thank you for the great certification given by Wei Ai Pi Zhongpi,

Thank you for the Xiu'er given by Uncleyang, thank you for the character summoning given by Nan Ke, thank you for the "My Snack Boyfriend" for the bursting flowers, thank you for the rich woman, please see through my strong and great certification, thank you for those who love apple mud

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Chapter completed!