Chapter 111 If you really want to marry a girl, you must give her respect and dignity
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law gathered together to discuss the matter all afternoon, and it was not until the sunset that the discussion was finalized.
Mrs. Rong Guogong's eyebrows were relaxed and she was in a happy mood. She suddenly remembered what happened back then and said to Ming, "When you got married to the eldest brother, you kept everything simple, which really wronged you."
Ming did not feel any grievance, she said: "These times are different, naturally they are different. When I got married, there were a lot of things in the court, and no one had time to spare. How could I be a banquet guest in peace?"
, which is already pretty good.”
"I heard that when my mother and father got married, there were wars everywhere. They held a big ceremony in the morning and changed their uniforms and went to the battlefield in the afternoon. They didn't even have any peace. My daughter-in-law is already very content."
People who have seen the flames of war tend to cherish the days of peace and peace more, and are much more open-minded, and will never care about trivial matters.
When the Ming Dynasty was born, the new dynasty had been established, but the four directions were not stable, and the court was not stable either. Military generals led the army to pacify the four directions, and civil servants governed the four fields in the court.
Her father died in the battle to quell the war.
Therefore, she felt that the peace and harmony of the family was the most important thing, and she would not care about it. Moreover, Rong Guogong's mansion had never treated her badly, nor had her father-in-law and mother-in-law treated her badly.
She has a husband who loves her and two children. Although they are a little skinny, they are still the ones she cares about.
She is already very content.
And as she said herself, the treatment is naturally different in different times. There is no way to care about this. If the marriage is still done as it was more than ten years ago, then people outside will laugh at the people in Rong Guogong's house.
No longer on the table.
Mrs. Rong Guogong breathed a sigh of relief: "I feel relieved if you think so. I'm afraid you think I favor her more."
Mingshi smiled: "What do I care about with her? If I were a few years older, I could be her mother."
Ming is already twenty-eight this year, and Xie Yixiao is only fifteen, which is a full thirteen years older. If she is a few years older, she will indeed be a mother.
"That's true." Mrs. Rong Guogong laughed heartily, and she was in a better mood now.
She also hopes that her family can live in harmony.
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law acted quickly. The next day, Ming sent someone to ask the official matchmaker about the rules of marriage proposal, and Mrs. Rong Guogong met Mrs. Cao Guogong.
Cao Guogong's Mansion is the natal family of Empress Cao, the Shengwu Emperor, and the family of the emperor's maternal ancestors. As mentioned before, Empress Cao had five brothers. Four of them died in the war, leaving only one. Later, she was granted the title of Duke Cao.
However, this Duke Cao is no longer here, and the current Duke Cao is his son.
Mrs. Cao Guogong is younger than Mrs. Rong Guogong. She is only in her forties now. Although she has a good reputation in the imperial city these years, she is also low-key.
Mrs. Rong Guogong didn't talk nonsense with her, and said directly: "I invite you here today because I want to ask you to help me arrange a marriage and be a matchmaker."
"Oh? Marriage? Your youngest son?" Mrs. Cao Guogong was a little surprised, thinking that the threshold of Rong Guogong had been stepped down recently, and she didn't know which girl she had fallen in love with.
"Whose girl is so lucky?"
Duke Rongguo said: "I have taken a fancy to the daughter of the Xie family and want to marry her for my son."
This world is very particular about "parents' orders and matchmaker's words". During the war, you may not care about these things, but the more peaceful and stable the life is, the more you pay attention to etiquette. She said that she was attracted by it and her son was attracted by it. They are completely different things.
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If it's the latter, the other person is thinking, how did they like him? When did these two people meet? Where did they meet? What did they do?
When such news spreads, it is very detrimental to a woman, especially if she marries into a high-ranking family. People outside will maliciously speculate on what tricks the woman used to win the favor of the man and marry into a high-ranking family.
I even thought that she might be a very scheming person, and would privately comment on her faults and point fingers.
If you really want to marry a girl, you should give her respect and dignity and make her look decent, instead of letting her get caught up in all kinds of malicious speculations and rumors.
Therefore, Mrs. Rong Guogong felt that it was better for Rong Ci not to meet Xie Yixiao, lest people see her and there would be unpleasant rumors about the engagement.
In this way, it is said that she has fallen in love with her daughter-in-law. This is the fate of her parents. The most people outside can do is say thank you and smile. Good luck. Malicious words from others are rare. She also needs to say a word of praise on her face that they are a match made in heaven. They are a good couple.
Tiancheng.
"Xie family?" Mrs. Cao Guogong was startled, "Xie Ge's elder Xie family?"
"Exactly."
Mrs. Cao Guogong was really shocked: "You want to marry the daughter of the Xie family for the ninth son. Your Majesty..."
Duke Rongguo said: "I agree, it's okay."
Mrs. Cao Guogong breathed a sigh of relief: "That's okay, I'll tell you for you."
Although they can be considered as peers, Mrs. Rong Guogong is ten years older than Mrs. Cao Guogong, and her status is also the most noble. In the past, Rong Guogong and Cao Guogong were called brothers, so Mrs. Cao Guogong considered herself a junior and respectfully addressed her as "you"
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"Which member of the Xie family do you like? The daughter of the second wife?"
"No, the one I like is the aunt of the legitimate daughter, Xie Shisan of the Xie family, the one raised by the Marquis of Changning."
"Thank you Thirteen?" Mrs. Cao Guogong paused, and then said, "That girl is indeed very good, but she was ill for a long time before. I heard she is cured now, but outsiders don't know the details."
Duke Rongguo said: "Don't worry. I met her when I was at Yunzhong Temple in the past and thought she was pretty good. And you also know that my Xiaojiu was born a little later and has a higher seniority. After counting around her, most of them are
She is from his niece's generation, so I think she is quite suitable."
It was a coincidence that the two happened to be of the same generation.
Duke Cao said: "If this is the case, it can be considered a fate."
Duke Rongguo said: "That's right, I still need to work hard for you. I heard that you and Mrs. Xie are getting along well. I just want you to treat Mrs. Xie to tea. I'll ask Mrs. Xie in private if the Xie family is interested.
, I’ll have to work harder on you again.”
You don't just go to someone's house with a betrothal gift and ask for your hand in marriage right away. That's not a marriage proposal, it's a forced marriage.
Generally, if you are attracted to someone, you should first ask the other person what they mean in private. You can ask yourself or ask someone to ask.
If it is intentional, then preparations will be made for the three letters and six rituals. Both parties will lively decide on the marriage, and then choose a wedding date to get married. If it is unintentional, no one will know about it, and it will not damage the girl's reputation.
Duke Cao said: "A few days ago, I heard Madam Xie mention that she wanted to marry her sister-in-law. It was just a coincidence. Since Your Majesty has approved it, there is no better candidate than your Ninth Young Master."
"It just so happened that I made an appointment with her the day after tomorrow to go see the new cloth. Then I will find an opportunity to ask you. Don't worry, I will definitely handle this matter well."
Mrs. Rong Guogong laughed: "Then I'll help you. If everything comes to pass, I will definitely give you a generous matchmaking gift."