Chapter 125 About education, don't put too much pressure on children
Zhao Mu looked up and stood up on the chair.
"It doesn't matter, these are all trivial matters. Linglong, you take Aunt Sun to the pharmacy and ask Dr. Sun to arrange someone to diagnose and treat Aunt Sun."
"It's the young master."
"After making arrangements, come find me in the study."
They went to call for help, which would take at least half an hour.
Several people got up, left the training ground and went to the study room.
"Brother Xian, my son regarded you as an object of worship that day when I told him about you.
I think you have such great talent at such a young age, and I want to learn from you.
I am usually very strict with him and let him study the Four Books, Five Classics and various sages' books.
Come here, let me say a few words to your Uncle Zhao!"
"It's father!"
Li Chengqian stood aside and began to talk endlessly about all the things his teacher taught him.
His words and deeds all showed the prince's demeanor, but in Zhao Mu's eyes.
Give yourself the impression that a young child should have an innocent, bright and lively impression.
On the contrary, you can't see it here, but it looks old-fashioned.
And this feeling was regarded as an advantage by Li Er, and he was complacent about it.
Li Chengqian kept performing various demonstrations on the side, and Li Er smiled with satisfaction.
At the critical moment, his son did not embarrass himself and even improved his own reputation. Yes, quite good.
"Okay, okay, my son is ready. Please step back first."
"It's father."
Indirectly showing off her children, she hints that her education is very good.
Li Er felt that he had done a good job in this regard, so he raised his head and looked at Zhao Mu.
"Brother Xian, how do you feel about my son?"
"Your education is quite good."
Hahahaha, Li Er laughed again.
"My son, your Uncle Zhao is a man of great talent. To be praised by him means that my education is pretty good.
As a father, my heart is filled with warmth.
But my dear brother, I know that my educational methods are not necessarily correct, and there will definitely be some shortcomings.
Dear brother, if you feel there is any shortcoming, it’s okay to fix it.”
As an emperor, Li Er did not yet think of himself as the best in the world in all aspects.
What kind of master can educate what kind of disciples.
The wise brother is so capable, which means that he must have his own abilities to become a master.
If they could also teach a few of their teaching methods, would it make the prince even more powerful?
"Actually, every master has his own teaching method, each method has its own advantages, but each method has its own shortcomings."
"My dear brother, please tell me."
"Actually, I personally think that your education method also has flaws, and the flaws are very fatal.
Presumably your son is studying step by step completely at your request, which means that you have the final say at home.
If you don’t give your child any space to express himself freely, will he dare to talk back to you at home?”
Li Er shook his head.
Talking back? It's really outrageous. Let's not talk about whether he is the emperor or whether he is the prince.
Even in an ordinary family, how many children dare to talk back to their father?
If he dares, let him know the power of the whip and make sure he doesn't shed even a layer of skin.
"Actually, as long as the child has its own consciousness after birth, he will be an independent individual.
When he grows up, he also has his own ideals and pursuits, just like when you were young, is it possible that you didn’t have your own ideals and pursuits in life?”
When Zhao Mu's husband said this, Li Er was slightly startled.
It is obviously impossible to say that I had no pursuit when I was young.
At that time, I wanted to be a young master, learn poetry and songs, and travel throughout the Sui Dynasty.
But later on, he was forced by his father to learn martial arts in addition to these poems and songs.
Later, when I was just over 10 years old, at the end of the Sui Dynasty, the world was in chaos, and they rebelled.
After that, I went on many expeditions here and there, and in the blink of an eye I am now here. Now that I think about it, the conditions have forced me to do so.
Let your ideals and pursuits be hidden in your heart and unable to be displayed.
"In fact, teaching methods like yours are also correct. It is said that filial sons emerge from under the stick.
After all, children are not as far-sighted as adults. As parents, no parent wants to harm their children.
But you have to understand more that your child is just an ordinary child after all, he doesn’t have that much experience, and he doesn’t have that much knowledge.
It is like a small tree. It needs to be pruned appropriately when it is time to prune it, but don't put too much pressure on it.
There’s a saying that goes well, but it’s counterproductive.”
But when Li Er heard this, he quickly shook his head.
"Brother Xian, I don't believe that I have arranged so many teachers for my child to study.
There are plenty of arrangements for him every day. When I wanted such conditions back then, I didn't have such conditions.
Now that the conditions are better, is it possible that he still doesn't want to study and doesn't understand the painstaking efforts I put into being a father?"
In Li Er's heart, he is very grateful now that his parents forced him to learn these things.
Maybe when I was young, I didn't understand the painstaking efforts of my parents, but as I grew older, I gradually understood.
However, when Li Er finished speaking, Zhao Mu shook his head.
"I said, Lao Li, you misunderstood what I said.
What I want to express is to let the child combine work and rest, rather than letting him study constantly.
Don't always use your own ideas and put too much mental pressure on your children.
Because every child has different levels of mental stress.
If stress is compared to something, children are likened to camels.
As the old saying goes, it's the straw that breaks the camel's back.
Some camels can carry 100 kilograms of cargo. When 100 kilograms are put on it, it can move forward with the load.
Add another 50 pounds to him, and he can barely bear it.
If another 50 kilograms were added to him, he gritted his teeth. Although it was a little slower, he could still bear it.
But these 200 kilograms are already the maximum limit that this camel can carry.
If it were to increase even one centimeter more, it would crush the body.
At this moment, a straw blew from nowhere and fell on the camel.
And this straw also became the most important link that broke his body.
Therefore, whether you are a person or a business, you must combine work and rest.
Adults with mature minds can still handle the same thing.
But for people over 10 years old, their minds are not mature at all.
When you encounter some things, you just can't handle them, and in the end there will be irreparable consequences.
In fact, there are examples of the most failed education like yours, and the most typical one is the one who belongs to the court.
Because of his education, his son had big problems."