Before Ye Ming could figure out why Liu Ziliang suddenly stood beside his bed, Liu Ziliang spoke softly again: "Director Ye, I'm sorry, I woke you up, I rushed here today , I sincerely apologize to you, and I hope Director Ye can forgive me for my presumption and recklessness,"
Ye Ming finally came to his senses after hearing Liu Ziliang's words. He stared at Liu Ziliang's face with a slightly frightened expression in confusion. He couldn't figure out what medicine he was selling in his gourd, and he didn't know how to answer him, so he had to Sitting there silently, watching how Liu Ziliang performed next.
When Liu Ziliang saw Ye Ming's expressionless face and said nothing, he thought he was still resenting him, and became even more flustered. He suddenly raised his right hand and waved the two "Hetianxia" cigarettes in his hand in front of Ye Ming. Yang, said with a smile: "Director Ye, I know you like to smoke. Just when I went back last night, a comrade came to see me and brought me two cigarettes. I brought them to you today...
"Director Ye, I don't mean anything else. I just felt that the night you came, District Director Yan and I were a little irritable. We said some sorry words and did some sorry things to you. Moreover, this morning you called When I was invited to dinner over the phone, I was discussing with Captain Chen Guitian about apprehending a fugitive murderer with numerous criminal cases. I was quite anxious, so I said a few angry words at the time. Thinking about it now, I feel very ashamed.
"Later, when Captain Chen Guitian found out that the person who called me was you, Director Ye, he severely criticized me and introduced Director Ye's situation to me in detail, saying that you are a man with a big belly and a big spirit. A courageous, knowledgeable, affectionate and righteous young hero, he is also an aspiring young man with both civil and military skills, outstanding abilities, and a bright future. After listening to his criticism of me and his introduction to you, I really felt regretful at that time. Captain Chen said that I was short-sighted and looked down on others. I think these two sentences were absolutely correct.
"At that time, Captain Chen asked me to call you to apologize and ask for your understanding. However, I did not do so. I felt: I have done so many things that are sorry for Director Ye and said so many things that are sorry for Director Ye. If I just A phone call is far from being able to express my regret and sincerity in apologizing. Therefore, after finishing the meeting in the team in the morning, I hurriedly took two bites of rice into my stomach and rushed over to see you without stopping. I hope Director Ye will see my sincerity and forgive me for my ignorant actions and rude words in the past. From now on, I will treat you as my brother. If anyone dares to do anything to your brother again, , I was the first person named Liu to be rude to him,"
Liu Ziliang's long words of apology and compliments made Ye Ming get goosebumps all over his body. Especially when Liu Ziliang said that he was "sightless" and "a dog looking down on others", he could hardly help but say " "Puch" and laughed out loud.
However, he knew that no matter how disgusting Liu Ziliang's words were, no matter how they made his skin crawl, no matter how ridiculous, he could never show an expression of boredom or ridicule on his face, because during this period of time, he had been While reflecting on some of the fundamental reasons why he was not suitable for being in the officialdom and why he was never promoted, one of them he thought was very fatal, that is, he would not cater to and compliment his superiors, and at the same time he could not stand those who flattered him. People can't stand those flattering words.
But in the real official world, Ye Ming realized that if you don't understand and cater to the leader's intentions, say good things to the leader in a timely manner, and don't bow your head in front of the leader, then the leader won't pay attention at all.
You, I won’t value you at all, let alone promote you
, Reuse you, of course, this is relative to most leaders, it is not absolute. Some leaders, such as Secretary Li Runji, may not belong to this type, but officials like Secretary Li are in the minority after all.
Therefore, my point of view still stands.
Corresponding to this is: If you want to be a leader, then you must be able to listen to all kinds of words: First of all, of course you must be able to listen to the words of criticism. This is the basic cultivation and cultivation of a leader.
Tolerance, secondly, towards subordinates
Even if these flattering words and compliments are disgusting and make people get goosebumps, you must have the patience and courage to listen. Moreover, this is actually a kind of self-cultivation, because
Once you become an official, you will definitely encounter
When it comes to flattering your subordinates, if you blindly hate this kind of behavior and blindly reject this kind of behavior, then your subordinates will think that you are pretending to be aloof, feel that you are unapproachable, and even think that you are impersonal. Therefore, they will be very unhappy.
possible
They will alienate you and keep you at a distance. In that case, your "noble behavior" that cannot be flattered by flattery will probably offend many subordinates unintentionally, and it is likely that you, the leader, will become a "loner".
"...
It is precisely because he has figured this out that Ye Ming is now gradually able to tolerate those flattering behaviors, and is gradually able to take the initiative to lower his attitude to cater to the intentions of his superiors. Although, he feels a little ashamed and a little embarrassed for this change of his.
, but he knows that this is the path of psychological transformation that he must go through after entering the officialdom. He must do it even though he knows he cannot do it...
Just like now, when Liu Ziliang said such disgusting words to himself, which made his skin crawl, if it were two years ago, he would definitely not buy his fault, and might even sneer at him.
But now, his mentality was different, so he tried his best to control his disgust at Liu Ziliang's words. After he finished speaking, he deliberately thought for a moment, then showed a smile and said unhurriedly:
"Captain Liu, you are serious. If I had cared about your original attitude towards me, I would not have
I took the initiative to call you to invite you to dinner, right? This is what I think: We are all classmates, and you, Captain Liu, are my seniors, and from a position perspective, you are still my leader, so I should respect you.
I should take the initiative to build a good relationship with you, which will also help us get along under the same roof in the future, right?
"What's more, I am also a good friend of Captain Chen Guitian of your Criminal Investigation Corps. We have drank together many times. Moreover, I am also very familiar with your Director Guo. Since you and Captain Chen are in the same unit and department, we
There will be more reasons for getting closer and a knot between them.
We have become the basis of good friends. Therefore, although there are some minor disputes and misunderstandings between us, you and I are both men and men, and we will never be brooding over such a minor incident. I will keep you in my heart. Please call me.