"First of all, you need to know that your situation will be experienced by everyone who is emotionally involved, deceived, and betrayed. Even if some people are not deeply affectionate and open-minded, they will still experience discomfort, pain, and complaints.
, self-blame, regret, regret, but reason is very good, and the body will repair itself. These take time. The key is that you constantly adjust and discover the changes in subtle ways, and accept them again. Over time, you will be able to
It will be fine, this time is not decided by me, but by you." Bai Xi said softly.
"I'm very sad now, what should I do? My heart hurts so much that it's about to burst. Even though I know that I was cheated, and he doesn't love me, but just deceives me and hurts me, I still feel extremely uncomfortable. What should I do?"
The elder sister looked at Bai Xi almost beseechingly.
Bai Xi recalled and thought about what should be done.
In the past days when she didn't have Ji Chenling, her life was very painful every day.
She will constantly comfort herself, adjust herself, and focus on her work.
However, if you use too much affection, your heart will still hurt.
But, she came alive like this.
"Focus on other things. It can be work, it can be for a dream, or it can be something that interests you." Bai Xi suggested.
Sister Yi nodded, tears brewing in her eyes, and tears as big as soybeans flowed out of her eyes.
Bai Xi felt like he was being pinched in his heart.
As a bystander, she didn't feel that much pain, but she understood the feeling of judging oneself and others.
"I remember, there was a book. I don't quite remember the title. If you have a chance, you can read it. It said that there is a method of regulating emotions. I tried it, and it seemed to be of little use, especially at that time.
Sometimes, but maybe our brains are too complex, and after a while, we will still be affected by emotions." Bai Xi said with a smile.
"What can I do?" Sister Yi looked at Bai Xi longingly.
She was in too much pain. She thought that man loved her and loved her sincerely. She really gave up all her sincerity. Because of this man, she was divorced and suffered a lot of notoriety. As a result, this man was...
After using her, he left suddenly.
All she felt was despair and betrayal. Every day she felt like there was a knife pulling out of her heart, which made her miserable.
"It's just tapping. You tap your forehead and tell yourself that it will pass. It just takes time. Then, tap other places on your body. I don't remember exactly where. Tell yourself what you have now.
Emotions, and then corresponding to each emotion, you tell the reason, and then you think of a solution based on the reason. Finally, you seriously feel whether your mood is better than before. If you really find that your mood is better than before.
It was better before, then you will find that you can overcome it. This is the process of dialogue with yourself, the process of truly knowing yourself. When you can have a good contact with yourself, when you go into your own heart, tell
She, don't be sad anymore, what should you do next?" Bai Xi told Sister Yi everything she knew.
However, a method is a method, just like a teacher teaching students, some students understand it immediately, and some students never understand it in their whole life.
She actually understands that this is to explore her subconscious and not let herself be affected by the emotions in her subconscious.
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When done, it helps, but when it comes to immediate results...it doesn't.
The structure of the human brain is very complex and cannot be controlled simply, but this is also a process of continuous practice and control.
Fu Yue didn't speak. She looked at Bai Xi, then at Sister Yi, and said to Sister Yi: "Do you want to try it? Xiao Xi and I are going to have some noodles. I seem to have some noodles at home. I want to eat some.
It’s hot, Xiao Xi, come over and help me.”
Fu Yue said, pulling Bai Xi away.
Bai Xi knew that Fu Yue wanted to give Sister Yi some time to try.
She also felt that Sister Yi needed a separate space to try it out. Doing it in front of others would be weird and shy.
She and Fu Yue went to the kitchen.
"Xiao Xi, does the method you mentioned work? It looks very fantastic and a bit unbelievable." Fu Yue said, looking outside secretly.
On the one hand, she wanted Sister Yi to give it a try, but on the other hand, she was worried that Sister Yi would do something stupid.
"Actually, it is useful. It is a method of regulating emotions in psychology, and it is also a comfort to yourself. Go into your heart, understand, understand, understand. When you understand everything, you will not be overwhelmed by emotions.
Of course, you will still be sad, but the level of sadness will be greatly reduced, and you will be able to get over your broken love faster than the average person. However, it still varies from person to person. After all, people have different abilities to understand, and the amount of effort they put in is different.
The feelings are different, and the degree of inner strength is also different." Bai Xi said rationally.
"But I still think you are amazing." Fu Yue put her arm around Bai Xi's shoulders, pulled Bai Xi down to her side, and said happily: "You know, before you didn't come, Sister Yi seemed to be crazy.
I couldn't listen to anything I said. I was trapped in my own emotions and drank hard. I was really worried that something would happen to her. But after you came, Sister Yi was able to listen to what you said, and she felt like she wanted to come out too.
, I feel very happy.”
"Well, if she wants to come out, in fact, she should come out. The key is that she wants to be afraid that she will be unable to extricate herself from the emotions of loss, betrayal and sadness. Some people will even expand their sadness.
, let yourself sympathize with yourself, the more you think about it, the sadder you become." Bai Xi also looked outside and said.
Sister Yi is trying Bai Xi's method, closing her eyes and tapping her forehead constantly.
Bai Xi looked back, "Do you want to eat noodles? I'll make them for you. What ingredients do you have in the refrigerator?"
"I'm actually not very hungry. Do you think Sister Yi would feel better if she ate hot noodles?" Fu Yue asked puzzledly.
She has never been in love. In fact, she doesn't quite understand Sister Yi's sadness.
She is not very good at comforting others, so I wonder if she will feel better after eating the noodles.
Anyway, if she is in a bad mood, she will eat too much, find a bunch of friends to come over to sing, have fun, and take a nap, and she will be in a much better mood tomorrow.
"You can cook her a bowl of hot noodles. She drinks a lot of wine and eats some noodles. If she eats more, it will consume oxygen in the brain and make her sleepy easily. When sleeping, the brain will secrete serotonin. This will
This kind of food will clean up the garbage in the brain and repair it, so if you are sad, angry or sad, you will wake up much better after sleeping." Bai Xi said the theoretical knowledge.