Qiao Lan got up early the next morning, washed and changed her clothes under the care of her maid.
Today is a festive day, so the old lady in charge naturally wants to dress more festively.
Qiao Lan put on a dark red gown embroidered with auspicious animals that she would never wear on ordinary days, combed her hair into an old lady bun, and even inserted a big red flower among the many gold hairpins.
Qiao Lan glanced at the bronze mirror that the maid held over, and she saw that she looked particularly kind and solemn in the mirror.
You dressed up quite festively, don’t dress up like that again.
"That's it, let's go to Tong'er's yard." Qiao Lan said, got up and took the maid over.
There are many rules for girls getting married in Beijing. For example, the hairpin on the bride's head and the sachet on her body are mostly taken from women with children and harmonious families.
I had to ask Mrs. Quanfu to comb my hair.
It's easy to get a hairpin sachet. You can go to some lucky people and give a gift in exchange for the hairpin.
As for the person to comb her hair, while Wang was still thinking about it, she was pestered by Duan Sitong for a while, asking her grandma to come over and comb her hair.
To say that Mrs. Qiao lost her husband and son, her house was ransacked, so she was not a blessed old lady.
But Qiao Lan can bring her family out of the capital and be promoted to the second rank by His Majesty as a woman. How many people in the world can have such a blessing?
Mrs. Wang thought for a moment and nodded in agreement. It would be good for her daughter to be blessed by the old lady.
When she told Qiao Lan about this, she wasn't going to agree. Beijing's bun was too complicated and she couldn't even figure it out. What's more, it was Duan Sitong's wedding day. What if her hair fell apart while walking?
I heard that she only needed to comb it a few times to express her feelings, so Qiao Lan readily agreed.
When Qiao Lan walked to Duan Sitong's yard, she saw Mrs. Wang, who had been waiting at the door for a long time, holding a piece of red paper and looking cautious.
When Mrs. Wang saw Qiao Lan, she saluted and said hello, then took the red paper and said, "Mother, these are the words that Mrs. Quanfu wants to read. My daughter-in-law has prepared them for you."
Any more lines?
Qiao Lan took the paper and glanced at it. He said a series of words, very difficult to speak, and immediately said: "If you don't say this, can I say something else?"
Wang didn't pay too much attention and nodded in agreement.
When Qiao Lan walked to the dressing table, she saw her eldest granddaughter wearing a red wedding dress. Against the red color of the room, her face was like a peach blossom, her face was pretty and her teeth were young. She looked at the wedding comb brought by the maid next to her and held it in her hand.
Comb it gently and slowly.
"Tong'er is getting married today! Grandma won't tell you those falsehoods. Everyone else has said enough. Grandma will tell you something that no one else has said!" Qiao Lan said with excitement.
Duan Sitong looked in the mirror, his eyebrows curved, and smiled in response. Wang, Shang and others also stood aside with smiles, looking forward to it in their hearts.
"When a woman gets married, she goes to a new place when she marries into the man's family. You are not from her family, so you cannot expect them to treat you as their own child!" Qiao Lan said with many years of experience in mother-in-law and daughter-in-law dramas.
The smile on Wang's face froze for a moment.
Qiao Lan: "People are comparing their hearts to their own, so you have to be nice to them and they will be nice to you!"
Duan Sitong nodded slightly: "My granddaughter knows!"
Wang's face returned to normal.
"Some people are just like stones. Their hearts are naturally cold and hard. Don't expect to be warm! You can't expect everyone to remember your kindness. Just live your life well..."
"If the younger members of their family disrespect you, you should go directly to their parents and ask how their upbringing is. If you encounter unreasonable elders, don't hold back and go back directly. The Duan family will be your confidence..."
The expression on Wang's face gradually cracked.
"If your elders don't like you, if your husband treats you well, you can live on. If your husband treats you badly, just find another husband and stop entangled with him. Life is short, why sleep with a heartless person every day
Let's sleep together! You can go home with Li directly. If grandma is rich, grandma will support you!"
"Grandma's second-grade status is not very high. She can still keep up appearances. Even if she is gone, she still has your uncles and brothers! Grandma will make them study examiners and stand up to become your confidence!"
"...Don't listen to what others say about families and everything going well. You can tolerate small things a little, but you don't have to tolerate big things. When you need to make peace, just make peace. Three legs... A thousand-mile horse is hard to find, but a sensible man is still easy to find. Life is easy.
How you live your life is your own business, it's up to you to decide, and you have to make it better by yourself."
"Don't listen to what people say about the water thrown away by a married daughter. This will always be your home. I am your grandma and this home is your relative. You can go home whether you are happy or not."
At this point, Qiao Lan has nothing to say.
Qiao Lan had long noticed the change in Wang's face. It was really not a good day to divorce her on the wedding day. She was afraid that she would not be able to bear the influence on her granddaughter and the marriage would not happen.
Qiao Lan's words indeed silenced all the women in the room.
When they get married, they hear the same happy words. They live together as a loving couple, are filial to their parents, and have children and grandchildren in their house. However, how many people can love each other until they grow old?
And then go home when you feel wronged!
When they get married, their mother tells them that they must endure it if they can, and they must endure it, so that they can have hope in life. Divorce is absolutely impossible. Women live in the backyard of a deep house. The only person they can rely on in their whole life is their husband, and they must be filial to their mother-in-law.
, the family and home are harmonious.
Seeing a line of tears flowing from the corners of her daughter's eyes, Ms. Wang stepped forward and comforted her: "Don't cry on this big day!"
Duan Sitong nodded and wiped his tears with a handkerchief.
Qiao Lan felt that she was the culprit, so she said a few words of relief, "It's grandma who talks too much. Grandma was hoping that Tong'er would get married smoothly and happily!"
When Duan Sitong heard this, he raised the corner of his mouth and smiled at Qiao Lan, "Grandma, Tong'er is very happy!"
How can you not be happy when you have such a wonderful grandma?
Next, the maids would wash Duan Sitong's face, makeup, and hair, insert the hairpin, and tidy up the corners of his clothes.
After getting busy with this, an hour passed.
Until noon, the sound of ritual music started.
Qiao Lan listened to the joyful suona accompanied by the noisy guests, and watched Duan Sitong's red back as he left.
Now she can also experience a little bit what it feels like to have her cabbage eaten by a pig!
How sad!
Now that she is an elder, she can understand how her parents feel when they urge her to get married. As she grows older, she is afraid that her children will have no one to accompany them in the future, so she wants them to get married early.
Of course, there are also those who cannot count on their partners and children. There are many people who miss concubines and keep extramarital affairs. Duan Yuexiu is one who keeps extramarital affairs. There is also Duan Mingjing before, who is a completely unfilial son.
So this woman lives in the back house and cannot rely entirely on her husband and children!