Since people are coming to apologize, Hua Zhenxing can't just chase them away with a straight face. As Director Niu said, people must be given a chance to reflect and admit their mistakes.
Qiao Shagao is twenty-seven this year. If you listen to his accent, some people may think that Hua Zhenxing is his hometown. Although Hua Zhenxing opened the door and let him in and asked him to sit down and talk, he still felt a little unhappy.
Is an apology made under pressure a real apology?
But Qiao Zhaogao came anyway, which shows that the society's judgment mechanism of right and wrong is still normal. People know that what he did was wrong, otherwise Hua Zhenxing would not be able to complain; it also shows that the society's error correction mechanism is still running, otherwise there would be no
People will put pressure on them to come.
In the past, the judgment mechanism of right and wrong in the country was no longer normal, and the error correction mechanism was no longer functioning. It was a hell for the people in the lower-class neighborhoods, so the new alliance would fight hard.
Hua Zhenxing couldn't help but think of the experience in Aden. Back then, the thugs on the plantation could let their dogs bite the slave workers at will. Therefore, Hua Zhenxing cherished the current Jili Kingdom even more, and also liked the current Dong Kingdom.
Since he likes Dong Guo, he will of course be even more unhappy when he sees Qiao Shao Gao.
If Qiao Zhao was sincere enough, he shouldn't have let Director Niu get in the way. Instead, he would have taken the initiative to come to Hua Zhenxing to apologize. At least he could have come with Director Niu. Was it because Qiao Zhao wasn't smart enough to think of this?
Of course not!
If Hua Zhenxing had signed the processing receipt yesterday, I'm afraid he wouldn't have been able to wait for Qiao Zhaogao himself.
There is a quality in Hua Zhenxing that makes many people unhappy, which is the innocence and seriousness of an idealist. It was just a matter of a few words, but it did not have any serious consequences, and Qiao Zhaogao himself was beaten, so why bother?
So?
But Hua Zhenxing knew very well that it was impossible for every student to be like Shi Shuangcheng, and it was even more impossible for everyone to be like Hua Zhenxing. The probability of Qiao Zhaogao encountering people like them was really very small.
In most cases, Qiao Zhaogao will neither be beaten nor punished, which inevitably gives him the illusion that he should neither be beaten nor punished for what he has done. How could Hua Zhenxing do this?
What about giving him such an illusion?
Qiao Zhaogao was in a very uneasy mood. He was worried about something. This was something Hua Zhenxing could directly feel. Although Hua Zhenxing had not yet practiced Buddhism, he still had the ability to sense emotions. After sitting down, Hua Zhenxing said straight to the point: "
Teacher Qiao, what do you want from me?"
Seeing that Hua Zhenxing's attitude was acceptable, Qiao Shagao breathed a sigh of relief and said in a sincere tone: "Classmate Hua, I'm here to apologize to you!
In front of classmate Shi Shuangcheng, I really just accidentally said the wrong thing. I have already admitted my mistake to the leader, and I will admit my mistake to you today..."
It was impossible for Hua Zhenxing to ask, "Where did you go wrong?" This was not a couple's quarrel, and with the level of department leaders, they must have analyzed it clearly when criticizing Qiao Shagao.
So Hua Zhenxing just listened quietly, wanting to know what Qiao Shagao's purpose was?
After Qiao Zhaogao apologized, he took out the latest Nectarine mobile phone from his handbag, put it on the table and said: "This is my apology, please accept it!"
Hua Zhenxing smiled, pushed the phone back and said, "There's no need for a gift. Please take it back, I won't accept it."
Qiao Shagao was anxious: "This is my apology, please accept my apology!"
Hua Zhenxing: “I accept the apology, but I won’t accept the items.”
Qiao Zhaogao said in surprise: "Classmate Hua, are you willing to accept the apology?"
Hua Zhenxing: "I have never been unwilling! Why don't I accept what is necessary?"
Qiao Zhaogao: "So are you willing to forgive me?"
Hua Zhenxing: "If you sincerely repent, I certainly won't blame you now."
Qiao Zhaogao took out the receipt that Director Niu brought yesterday: "Then please sign this document. You don't have to withdraw the school's complaint personally, but the Ministry of Education and the Ministry of Foreign Affairs still need to
You can withdraw the complaint yourself.
This requires you to make a separate trip, so please be sure to accept the gift! If you have any other requests, don’t forget to mention them."
Hua Zhenxing narrowed his eyes: "I accept the apology, but I can't accept the gift, I can't sign this, and the complaint can't be withdrawn."
Qiao Sha was startled: "Didn't you just say you were willing to forgive me?"
Hua Zhenxing: "Is this what you mean by forgiveness?"
Qiao Shagao: "What else could that mean?"
Hua Zhenxing: "It seems that you don't quite understand the meaning of apology. The so-called apology represents an attitude and admits that one has made a mistake. If people think they have not made a mistake but have been unfairly punished, they can also insist on their own
position.
From my standpoint, of course I think you are wrong, so of course I am willing to accept your apology. I will not blame you for your apology now. What I am complaining about is your past wrong words and deeds. The two are not the same thing.
Admitting your mistake is not a punishment, but a kind of self-salvation. If you don't admit your mistake, you can't correct your words and deeds. If you really admit your mistake, you should acknowledge my complaint instead of asking me to withdraw it.
If you use apology as a means to force the person you hurt and offended to tolerate your hurt and offense. This is not a true admission of fault, but to make the other party accept your mistake.
A true apology should not make demands on the victim. Using an apology to force the victim to express his position, just to let himself escape punishment, is actually a secondary injury to the victim.
In reality, many victims may say, ‘I don’t ask for anything else, I just want an apology.’ This is often because they are unable to punish the person who hurt them, and they can only hope that society’s judgment mechanism of right and wrong is still normal.
The so-called forgiveness means that only those who have the power to punish you are qualified to forgive you. I myself have not punished you in any way, and I have no power to punish you, so I am not qualified to forgive you."
Qiao Zhaogao was a little confused, but he still grasped the last sentence keenly and said eagerly: "Why are you not qualified? You are the complainant. As long as you sign this receipt and withdraw the complaint..."
Hua Zhenxing interrupted him: "My complaint only describes a fact. If you think it is inconsistent with the facts, you can point it out or refute it.
For example, if someone else’s child does something wrong, it will be disciplined by his parents. It doesn’t matter, I won’t forgive you. The school has the power to punish you. This is not because you offended me, but because you violated the law between the school and the school.
Regulations of the Ministry of Education.
I have no right to modify Chunhua University's disciplinary requirements for faculty and staff and the regulations of the Ministry of Education of Dongguo, let alone modify them for you. This is a matter for the Ministry of Education and the school.
Punishment itself is not the problem, why it should be punished and how to punish it reasonably are the real issues."
Qiao Zhaogao was really anxious: "But if you don't withdraw the complaint and express understanding, the school may expel me! I don't know that your complaint was taken seriously by the leader, and the school is also under pressure now."
Hua Zhenxing actually laughed again: "Fire you? It can't be so serious. Sometimes the punishment also depends on the attitude of admitting your mistake. Since the fact has happened, I will not withdraw the complaint, but I can write an explanation to explain that you have come
You came to me to apologize."
Qiao Zhaogao: "What if the school really wants to expel me?"
Hua Zhenxing: "What you said reminds me of a person, his surname is Ding, a teacher I respect very much. Teacher Ding has some experiences similar to yours. He was once a teaching assistant at a key university and a working doctor.
Later, he made a mistake and was expelled from the school. I asked him about it, and he said that was the price he should pay. The Teacher Ding I know is definitely a respectable person, and he has made extraordinary achievements now!"
While talking, Hua Zhenxing took out a piece of A4 paper and wrote an explanation:
"On the evening of September 21, 2023, Teacher Qiao Zhaogao came to the dormitory to apologize to me in person because of his inappropriate words and deeds. I accepted his apology and refused the gift he brought (a latest Nectarine mobile phone)
.
After Teacher Qiao Zhaogao apologized, he asked me to sign the prepared receipt from the school (with a photo attached), but I did not sign. He also asked me to withdraw the two complaints to the Ministry of Education and the Ministry of Foreign Affairs, but I did not agree.
Hereby explain.
Huazhenxing, September 21, 2023”
After he finished writing, he handed the piece of paper to Qiao Zhao. Qiao Zhao glanced at it twice, his expression changed, and he stared at Hua Zhenxing and said, "You're going to write me such an explanation?"
Hua Zhenxing asked: "Isn't it true?"
Qiao Sha threw the piece of paper away with trembling hands and said in a stern tone: "Classmate Hua Zhenxing, if the school punishes me, have you ever thought about the price you will pay?"
Hua Zhenxing: "Do you want to fight with me? I suggest you give up this idea."
Qiao Zhaogao: "You will offend a lot of people, including teachers. Chunhua University also has regulations. If you don't complete the credits, you will not be able to graduate. If you fail the exam in too many subjects, you will be dismissed."
Hua Zhenxing: "You don't have to worry about it anymore! If I abide by discipline and pass every exam, there's no reason why I can't get a diploma, right?"
Qiao Zhaogao: "What a wonderful idea you have! Your parents got such a nationality for you and finally got into Chunhua University. They must have tried their best, right? What will be the consequences if you are expelled from the school?
Do you really think you got in based on your ability? The school takes good care of you international students, and the teachers usually don’t make things difficult and usually give you a pass if they can, but that’s not necessarily the case in your case!”
Hua Zhenxing: "You mean, if I don't agree to your request, you will go to the teachers of various subjects and deliberately fail to give me a pass? You don't seem to be able to care about this kind of thing!"
Qiao Zhaogao: "You don't need me to do anything. Don't you know what's going on? You're not offending me alone, but the whole group of teachers. As long as you are graded truthfully, do you think you can pass and graduate? More
Forget about scholarships!”
Hua Zhenxing said with a smile: "I don't believe that all the teachers in Chunhua are people like you, and I completely understand your purpose of coming today. Are you threatening me?"
He looked so disgusting. Qiao Shagao said bitterly: "I'm not threatening you, I'm just telling you a fact! You are also from Dongguo. You should know how to keep a line in life so that we can meet each other easily in the future!"
Hua Zhenxing pointed to an open laptop with a black screen on the bed next to him: "I will also tell you a fact. The camera of this laptop is always on, and the conversation we just had was recorded."
Qiao Zhaogao panicked instantly. He subconsciously stood up and rushed forward, reaching out to grab the laptop. He actually did it, and then his eyes blurred, and he felt dizzy for a long time.
When he came back to his senses, he discovered that he was lying in the green belt outside the dormitory building. Due to the dim sky and the obstruction of the honeysuckle hedge, the passing classmates did not even notice that the bag containing the mobile phone case was also placed there.
Chest.
Hua Zhenxing's dormitory is on the second floor. If he fell from the window, he might not fall to his death, but he wouldn't be unscathed. The more important question is how did he lie down here?
Qiao Shagao was inexplicably frightened, but he did not dare to go to Hua Zhenxing again. At the same time, Hua Zhenxing dialed the number that Director Niu left for him last time: "Teacher Niu? Qiao Shagao came to see me just now.
…I now have a piece of material to show you.”
In Hua Zhenxing's dormitory, after reading the recording on his laptop, Director Niu's face turned dark. When he looked up again and saw Hua Zhenxing, his face was full of embarrassment again.
Hua Zhenxing took the initiative and said: "It's not that I don't deny people the opportunity to reform. I'm even willing to give millions of people such opportunities. The reason why I didn't sign yesterday was because I expected that he would definitely come in person, even though I said it and didn't
There is no need for him to come to me and apologize.
He really didn't come to apologize! In fact, after I got the recording from Shi Shuangcheng, I knew who he was. I could also guess what his purpose would be if he came to me. I have to let the school deal with it clearly, no
?
To reform, you must first truly reform, and then you can talk about reforming. If he just sincerely apologized and admitted his mistakes today, I would respond to you truthfully. If that were the case, the school would not be too harsh on him.
punishment."
This is the truth. Hua Zhenxing is a very generous man. With so many gangsters in the country of Kilili, didn't he also give them a chance to reform? Let them accept reform through labor, participate in study classes, and then integrate into the new society.
Director Niu actually sighed: "Actually, even if he doesn't come to you to apologize, the school won't expel him." At this point, he quickly added, "Of course, punishment must be given!"
Hua Zhenxing: "So now, do you need me to do anything else?"
Director Niu: "Please give me this record. Please rest assured that the school will deal with it severely. Let me tell you privately that I don't want his teaching position or degree!"
Xiaohua, I'm lucky to have met you this time. If it were another student, I don't know how he would have frightened you. As for the things he threatened you, you don't have to worry, I can assure you that he won't.
occur……"
Hua Zhenxing: "Thank you for your hard work, Teacher Niu. You have to make a special trip this late at night."
Director Niu thought of something again and said with some worry: "Classmate Xiaohua, please believe that the school will deal with it seriously. As for these things, please do not send them to the media or put them on the Internet..."
Hua Zhenxing: "As long as the school can handle it according to regulations, I have no intention of doing so. After all, the school is the one who has the qualifications and responsibility to handle this matter, not any online media.
The basis of fairness is the judgment of facts, not which party has the right to speak, or is more powerful and shameless, don't you think?"