Chapter 231: How to deal with Chinese-style parents
Qiao Weidong complained: "Tell me, this balloon is about a child's dream. Why do you insist on asking her to write down her test scores?"
"The most important thing for her now is the college entrance examination. What's wrong with writing scores? Besides, Qiao Weidong, what qualifications do you have to accuse me? In the future, you should stop hanging around in front of the child and distract her attention. I was here to encourage the child. You
If you keep being frustrated behind the scenes, will your child's grades get better?" Song Qian said angrily.
"You are simply unreasonable!" Qiao Weidong left angrily.
After Qiao Weidong left, Song Qian went to Qin Hao and told her what had just happened, hoping that Qin Hao could help her make peace.
"Teacher Qin, tell me what's wrong with today's children. They get angry when they don't do something right..."
Qin Hao interrupted rudely: "Teacher Song, as a parent, it is understandable that you want your daughter to succeed, but are you pushing Yingzi too hard? The fact that you and Lao Qiao divorced has caused unsatisfactory feelings in Yingzi's heart.
The trauma that has been eradicated may make you feel aggrieved, but have you ever thought that the mental state of adolescent children like Yingzi is extremely fragile. Now that the college entrance examination is approaching, so many pressures are stacked together. If a teenage child
If you can't bear it, have you ever thought about the consequences?"
Song Qian didn't know how to refute for a moment and just froze on the spot.
After speaking, Qin Hao ignored Song Qian's reaction and went straight to the teaching building to look for Qiao Yingzi.
Song Qian is a very strong person at heart. Ever since she divorced Qiao Weidong, she has focused all her attention on Qiao Yingzi. She thinks this is her love for her daughter, and she is easily moved, regardless of her daughter's preferences.
I don’t like it, this is also a typical Chinese parent.
The three words "for your own good" are really useful. No matter how excessive things these Chinese-style parents do, as long as they say it silently in their hearts, they can forgive themselves and then feel moved, regardless of their children's feelings.
When they arrived at the top of the teaching building, they found Qiao Yingzi squatting there crying. Qin Hao silently walked behind her.
Qiao Yingzi was a little surprised and stopped crying: "Old Qin, why are you here?"
"Your mother asked me to persuade you." Qin Hao handed her a pack of tissues.
Qiao Yingzi wiped her tears and hummed: "Why doesn't she come by herself?"
Qin Hao did not answer, but said slowly: "Hiding in a corner and crying alone is a sign of weakness. Do you expect that if you cry here, your mother won't force you?"
"Then what do you think I should do?" Qiao Yingzi looked at Qin Hao confused.
Qin Hao sat down next to her and smiled: "The great leader once said: If you seek peace through struggle, you will survive peacefully; if you seek peace through compromise, you will perish peacefully. Any rights must be fought for by oneself, and people must fight for each other.
The same goes for relationships. If you are strong, she will be weak; if you are weak, she will be strong."
"That's my mother, you said she was like a class enemy." Qiao Yingzi burst into laughter.
Qin Hao spread his hands and said: "In a sense, the relationship between parents and children is really that of class enemies."
Qiao Yingzi thought for a long time and finally shook her head: "I can't do that. My mother has already lost my father. If she loses me again, she will collapse."
Qin Hao secretly sighed, how could Song Qian have such a daughter?
"Do you still remember the story I told you about the twenty-four filial piety in ancient times?" Qin Hao asked.
Qiao Yingzi nodded.
Qin Hao tapped her head lightly: "Sometimes I really want to open your head and see if there is an ancient soul living inside."
"As an adult, your mother's psychological endurance must be much stronger than yours. Secondly, in modern society, there is no need to rely on clans for survival. People are independent of each other. No one can live without one. If If you still want to continue to fulfill your dream of spaceflight, you must learn to defend your dream, otherwise you will have to live according to your mother's will and live your life as she wants."
Qiao Yingzi struggled in her heart after hearing this. She didn't want to make Song Qian sad, but she was not willing to become a puppet. She had to make a choice between family love and dreams.
"But, what should I do?" Qiao Yingzi nervously pulled Qin Hao's sleeve. She had no experience in fighting and didn't know how to fight against Song Qian.
Qin Hao said sternly: "In fact, the confrontation between children and their parents is often about who is more ruthless. As long as you grasp the things that your mother cares about most and contradict her a few times, she will make concessions."
"What my mother cares about most is my study?" Qiao Yingzi asked blankly.
Qin Hao shook his head: "No, what she cares about most is controlling you. You are still underage, so if you want to get rid of her control, you need someone's help."
"My dad?" Qiao Yingzi's eyes lit up.
Not satisfied, he immediately added: "But my father is like a cat seeing a mouse when he sees my mother. Can he do it?"
Qin Hao chuckled: "Believe me, for caring about little cotton-padded jacket, dad is the most powerful creature in the world!"
Qiao Yingzi burst out laughing: "It sounds like you have a daughter."
"Perhaps, it happened in my previous life." Qin Hao said lightly.
In a restaurant box outside the school, Qiao Weidong hurried over in a hurry. As soon as he entered the box door, he said worriedly to Qiao Yingzi.
"Eiko, how are you? Are you okay?"
Qiao Yingzi held her father's arm: "Dad, I'm fine. I just want to ask you for help."
"Hey, I'm shocked. You have to tell me everything in person. If you call me, my dad will live through fire and water." Qiao Weidong breathed a sigh of relief, then patted his chest and said.
So Qiao Yingzi told Qiao Weidong the plan made by Qin Hao.
Qiao Weidong felt a little regretful when he heard this. He had just spoken too much. He was afraid of Song Qian from the bottom of his heart and had developed a habit over the years.
When Qin Hao saw Qiao Weidong starting to back off, he winked at Qiao Yingzi.
Seeing this, Qiao Yingzi shook Qiao Weidong's arm and acted coquettishly: "Dad, you just said that you would do anything to help me, but you are not willing to help me with this small favor?"
This chapter is not over yet, please click on the next page to continue reading! "However, when your mother and I separated, we agreed that the custody rights would belong to your mother. It would be unkind to break the promise now. Besides, after all, your mother After taking care of you for so many years, am I afraid of hurting her heart?" Qiao Weidong comforted her.
Qiao Yingzi pouted and threw away Qiao Weidong's arm: "Then you are not afraid that I will be sad? You haven't seen that my mother looks at me like a thief now, and she makes me some medicinal food and drinks all day long.
It made me almost vomit, and she was so moved that I no longer even have the right to eat fried dough sticks. Dad, if this continues, I will definitely become depressed."
Qiao Weidong panicked when he heard this, and quickly comforted him: "No, Yingzi, please don't think like that. Dad must be on your side unconditionally. In this way, Dad will risk everything. As long as you give me a call, I will immediately
Come here and I will never let your mother force you again."
"That's pretty much it. Thank you dad, you're the best." Qiao Yingzi immediately smiled.
In fact, Qin Hao's plan was very simple, which was to set up a target for Qiao Weidong and let him pretend to compete with Song Qian for custody rights, in order to suppress Song Qian's growing desire to control Qiao Yingzi.
The main reason why parents have so much control over their children is that the children have no financial ability and can only rely on them to live. However, Qiao Yingzi also has a father. With Qiao Weidong's financial strength, Qiao Yingzi can completely let Qiao Yingzi live a carefree life.
The life of the rich second generation.
Qiao Weidong smiled happily when he saw his daughter, but his face was full of sadness. In fact, he still had Song Qian in his heart. In this way, his dream of reuniting with Song Qian was undoubtedly shattered.
"Well, Yingzi, please get in the car and sit for a while. Dad and Teacher Qin have something to say."
After eating and drinking, Qiao Weidong sent Qiao Yingzi away when he left, and then stared at Qin Hao with big eyes.
"Teacher Qin, we had no enmity in the past and have no enmity in the present. Why are you hurting me?"
Qin Hao laughed and scolded: "Old Qiao, don't be ignorant of good and evil. I am here to help you. Why did you divorce Song Qian in the first place? It's not that you can't stand Song Qian's control. Now you also see that Song Qian controls you.
All that energy was used on Yingzi, and the root of this matter lies with you. If it weren't for your connivance with Song Qian over the years, would Yingzi have suffered this? Are you unjustly accused of taking this blame? "
"What you said...is somewhat reasonable, but you know that I feel shorter when I see Song Qian. What if I become timid when the time comes?" Qiao Weidong was depressed.
He scratched his forehead.
This is true. With Song Qian's momentum like the Lion's Roar from Hedong, if Qiao Weidong lost the momentum at the beginning, it would be difficult for him to fight again in the future.
"Did you really cheat on me back then?" Qin Hao asked.
Qiao Weidong jumped up when he heard this: "Who cheats on the grandson? It was just a joke made by my friends at that time. I got a girl to take a photo of us, and Song Qian saw it so hard that I and I
She explained that she didn't believe her, and she had no choice but to divorce her. My current girlfriend, Xiaomeng, was also just last year."
"Then it's over. You obviously didn't cheat on her. Song Qian has wronged you for so many years. Why are you so short of her?" Qin Hao induced him step by step.
"Yes, why should I be shorter than her? I didn't cheat on her!" Qiao Weidong straightened his chest unknowingly.
After Qiao Weidong was taken care of, Qin Hao's plan began to be implemented early the next morning.
After Qiao Yingzi got up and washed up, Song Qian asked her to eat raw sea cucumber again, but Qiao Yingzi just held it in her mouth and spit it out immediately.
"Mom, what does this taste like? Can you try all these dark dishes? It makes me feel sick."
When Song Qian thought about releasing the balloons yesterday, she felt a little guilty towards her daughter, but she still tried to persuade her: "Yingzi, dear, these are supplements. Mom got them with great difficulty. You are now in your third year of high school and need to use your brain a lot.
You have to keep up with nutrition.”
At this moment, the doorbell rang. Qiao Yingzi rolled her eyes and immediately went to open the door.
Qiao Weidong arrived with a variety of breakfast items, such as fried dough sticks, soy milk, and steamed dumplings.
Song Qian became furious as soon as she saw Qiao Weidong: "What are you doing here?"
"I'm here to deliver breakfast to my daughter!" Qiao Weidong bravely met Song Qian's gaze, and he worked hard for his daughter.
Qiao Yingzi happily took the breakfast from Qiao Weidong, and pulled him to sit down, exchanging greetings and greetings.
"Wow, Dad, the buns here are hard to buy. How did you buy them?"
Under Song Qian's murderous gaze, Qiao Weidong tried his best to sound calm: "Hey, it's okay. Dad just got up a little early and queued up at the door at 5:30. It took an hour.
It's just my turn, so I'll bring it to you while it's still hot."
Song Qian was furious, pointing at Qiao Weidong and scolding: "Qiao Weidong, why are you so attentive here? I have been making breakfast for my daughter for so many years. How often do I not get up at 5:30 in the morning? What kind of fried dough sticks are you?
How dirty! Who knows if their oil has been kept overnight? What if Yingzi eats it and gets a stomachache? Take it away quickly!"
Qiao Weidong defended: "I bought this from a regular big store, and it must be in compliance with food safety. Besides, my daughter likes to eat this. How can I, a father, buy some breakfast for my daughter to show my courtesy?"
"Qiao Weidong, you are deliberately trying to get in trouble with me, right?" Song Qian didn't expect Qiao Weidong to be so tough today, which was a bit incredible. When she glared at him before, Qiao Weidong immediately gave in. What happened today?
Under his daughter's gaze, Qiao Weidong puffed up his chest and looked at Song Qian: "I don't mean that, I just want my daughter to have a good meal. What's wrong?"
"You mean I treated Yingzi badly?" Song Qian was already on the verge of going berserk.
Qiao Yingzi saw that the heat should be almost the same as what Qin Hao said, so she smoothed things over.
"Well, please stop arguing. Why don't you just eat these that my dad brought today? I bought them all, and it would be a waste not to eat them."
As she spoke, she picked up a small steamed bun. However, what neither she nor Qiao Weidong expected was that Song Qian actually slapped Qiao Yingzi's hand, and the steamed bun flew away far away.
This chapter is not over yet, please click on the next page to continue reading! Qiao Yingzi's eyes turned red immediately, and Qiao Weidong became angry when he saw a few red marks on his daughter's hands, and yelled at Song Qian.
"Song Qian, you have gone too far. Why do you beat my daughter?"
In fact, Song Qian regretted the move, but after being yelled at by Qiao Weidong, her anger surged and she directly confronted Qiao Weidong.
"Qiao Weidong, stop pretending to be a good person here. If you really care about your daughter, you won't mess around outside!"
This time it touched Qiao Weidong's side. He almost left home at first. The only condition was that Song Qian was not allowed to tell his daughter about the incident. Although it was false, he didn't want to leave a scum in her daughter's mind.
Male impression.
"Song Qian, let me say it again, that incident was a prank by a friend. There were many people present at the time. I have evidence here..."
While the two were arguing, Qiao Yingzi suddenly stood up and shouted: "Stop arguing!"
With that said, he rushed out of the room with his schoolbag on his back.
Qiao Weidong glared at Song Qian: "Look at the good things you have done!"
"Get out of here! I never want to see you again!" Song Qian pointed at the door and roared.
On the other side, Qiao Yingzi came to school. She was lying weakly on the table during self-study in the morning. Huang Zhitao asked curiously.
"What's wrong? Are your relatives here?"
Qiao Yingzi raised her head and glanced at her, then lowered her head: "My relatives came at the same time as you, right? I'm hungry."
"Are you hungry? You woke up late and Aunt Song didn't prepare breakfast for you?" Huang Zhitao asked doubtfully. In her memory, Qiao Yingzi's three meals a day seemed to be prepared by Song Qian, rain or shine.
Qiao Yingzi concealed part of Qin Hao's plan and told what happened at home this morning.
Huang Zhitao was amazed after hearing this: "Uncle Qiao actually has such a masculine side. I thought he was like a mouse meeting a cat when he saw Aunt Song Qian."
"Don't mention it, I guess their hope of remarrying this time will be even slimmer." Qiao Yingzi raised her chin depressedly.
Huang Zhitao actually envied Qiao Yingzi in her heart. Her parents went to Africa to provide aid when she was very young and could not come back for several years. If there were not communications from time to time, she would even wonder whether her parents had encountered something in Africa.
Unexpectedly, her grandparents were afraid that she wouldn't be able to bear it, so they used this statement to comfort her.
After class, Qiao Yingzi hurried to the next class, pulled Qin Hao aside who had just finished morning self-study, and told him the situation.
"Old Qin, what do you think we should do next?" Qiao Yingzi looked at Qin Hao eagerly.
Qin Hao thought for a while: "The next step is up to you."
"Look at me?" Qiao Yingzi asked doubtfully.
Qin Hao analyzed: "Your mother's behavior has always been to give you a slap in the face, and then she will definitely give you warmth, and then cry and tell her how difficult it is. It depends on whether you can bear it or not.
"
Qiao Yingzi thought about it and found that she really told Qin Hao that every time Song Qian had an quarrel with her, she would compensate her, and then the mother and daughter would get back together.
As Qin Hao expected, Huang Zhitao ran over soon and said that Song Qian was at the school gate and came to deliver breakfast to Qiao Yingzi.
"Old Qin, what should I do?" Qiao Yingzi was a little nervous. She was afraid that all her previous efforts would be in vain.
Qin Hao patted her shoulder and comforted her: "Just keep your face expressionless throughout the whole process. Try to look a little impatient, just like you usually have conflicts with Fang Yifan. If you keep her cold, she will naturally be stressed."
"Yes." Qiao Yingzi nodded solemnly and clenched her fists. For the sake of her dream, she had no choice but to make her mother suffer a little wronged first. At worst, she would apologize to her after she was admitted to Nanjing University.
Arriving at the gate of the campus, Song Qian said with an apologetic face: "Yingzi, it's your mother's fault today, it's all because of your father. This is the breakfast I made for you again, pumpkin and millet porridge, it's very nutritious."
Qiao Yingzi's face was expressionless: "There is bread at Huang Zhitao's place. I've already eaten it. You'd better take it back."
After saying that, Qiao Yingzi turned around and left. She didn't dare to look at Song Qian's disappointed eyes.
"Yingzi, Yingzi!" Song Qian called out several times, but Qiao Yingzi didn't even look back. She couldn't help but feel angry and anxious.
"This Qiao Weidong, you are a pest, you will never see your daughter again in the future!"
Qiao Yingzi hid under a big tree before she dared to secretly check the situation at the school gate. Seeing Song Qian returning disappointed, she secretly breathed a sigh of relief.
On the other side, as soon as Qin Hao arrived in the office, Li Meng said to Qin Hao.
"Teacher Qin, we will have a new student coming next week. His name is Lin Lei'er. He is Fang Yifan's cousin. You can take care of him then. His grades are quite good and he is a good candidate to hit Qingbei."
