Proposing a marriage is actually just a formality for two families. Their employees here come from all over the country, so the rules are naturally chaotic. After decades of accumulation, a very simple but complicated procedure has gradually been formed.
When people of the older generation get married, there are actually no rules. Once the letter of introduction is opened, the marriage certificate is issued, the red flower is worn on the chest, and there are two or three banquet tables, they are considered married.
In their younger generation, marriage proposals, engagements, and weddings became popular again.
According to unwritten rules, the marriage proposal depends on the situation of each family. The man prepares four or eight gifts, such as dried fruits, tobacco, alcohol, snacks, etc., and goes to the woman's home to meet and discuss the subsequent engagement.
In 1987, it was not popular here for them to want three big items, such as a TV, a refrigerator, and a washing machine. At this time, the bride's family usually wanted bicycles, sewing machines, tape recorders, or other big items.
The betrothal gift usually ranges from two hundred to five hundred. The so-called engagement meal actually means that relatives, team leaders, and close friends of the elders sit together for a meal, which is equivalent to witnessing the marriage of two juniors.
Engagement ceremony.
Her family has no relatives in Yincheng. Her mother had a cousin in Yincheng in the early years. However, after her father had an accident and her mother was kicked out of the house, they did not want to support their mother and daughter, and later they stopped
Contacted.
However, most of the people in this team are retired soldiers who took a train to the northwest. No matter which army they were in before, everyone is a comrade here.
The two people getting engaged are both from the same company. Yesterday, when I heard that their two families were planning to discuss their marriage, many people had already said that they must come to have the engagement wine, so I couldn’t have invited anyone less for this meal.
By some estimates, even if each family did not bring their family members, at least a dozen tables would be served, otherwise her mother would not talk about the engagement meal.
The Li family came to propose eight gifts, including snacks, dried fruits, candies, and two bottles of Maotai liquor.
Bai Xiu looked at the red packages on the table and felt that the Li family was trying to make themselves fat.
Ji Shuying saw Bai Xiu's concerns at a glance, took Bai Xiu's hand and said:
"Sister, don't worry, we have prepared these things for our children a long time ago. Although my family's life has not been as good as before in the past two years, we must not wrong Yanhong when she comes into my house. She will not be wronged if others have it.
It won’t be the same.”
"Besides, my eldest brother is also quite promising. He even received a royalties for his work some time ago. He has earned enough as a bride price."
"That's good......"
Bai Xiu's mouth actually seemed a bit clumsy in front of Ji Shuying, who had been the women's director for more than 20 years.
"You also know that your brother Li and I got married late, and I have long been looking forward to these three brothers getting married soon."
This is true at all. Ji Shuying and Li Zhong came to Yincheng with their marriage certificates after they were demobilized from the army. When Li Boshan was born, Ji Shuying was already twenty-eight years old. At that time, she was absolutely
She is a proper older mother.
Although Ji Shuying still looks like a middle-aged woman, in fact she is only a few months away from retirement.
"Time flies by so fast. In the past two years, I was worried that I would have to get engaged and hold a wedding for them."
"What our family wants is to settle the marriage as soon as possible. When Boshan turns twenty-two in the second half of the year, we will have a wedding."
"Yes, yes." Bai Xiu's face was obviously a little reluctant. He glanced at the people standing next to him who looked like a pair of golden boys and girls, and his eyes began to heat up again.
"Then let's just look at the date. If we find an auspicious day, we can get engaged and have a drink."
"Sister Ji, we have been together for almost twenty years. If you have anything to say, I won't hide it from you."
"Originally I was not satisfied, but the two children are willing, so we agreed to the marriage. We don't have many requirements for the bride price. It depends on your current ability, just express your feelings."
"There's just one thing. We Yanhong haven't suffered much at home since we were young. When she comes to your house, please treat her kindly."
The more Bai Xiu talked, the more sore her eyes became. She almost couldn't hold on and shed tears several times.
"Don't worry, sister, we have watched Yanhong grow up, and she will not suffer the slightest injustice after entering our home."
"It's true that we can't afford much as a bride price right now. Sister, do you think you can afford a gift of five hundred yuan?"
"Oh, there is also the matter of the house. I have a lot of children in my family. We currently have three rooms. When they hold their wedding, we plan to expand one more room. I have already registered it."
"I'm going to buy a new bicycle. It's just a tape recorder and a sewing machine. I'm afraid we won't be able to buy them all when we get engaged, but don't worry, sister, we will definitely buy them for Yanhong when we get married."
Bai Xiu was very surprised when she heard about the five hundred gift. After all, the Li family had to sell things to treat their son a few days ago. How could they come up with the five hundred gift money now?
"Sister Ji, did you give too much as a bride price..."
Bai Xiu was halfway through speaking, but felt that the words shouldn't be said and quickly stopped.
"This is Boshan's intention, and he earned all the money himself, so we have no objection."
Ji Shuying looked at Li Boshan and Feng Yanhong, her face somewhat proud.
Bai Xiu nodded, no longer worrying about the bride price and continued:
"The bride price is five hundred, and we will add five hundred to our dowry. In addition, we will also cover a full set of furniture. Sewing machines, tape recorders, etc. If the money is not enough, we will add more. As long as the two children live well, we don't care about these details.
."
Ji Shuying and Li Zhong smiled and exchanged glances. Li Zhong slowly spoke:
"Yanhong is a good girl. Don't worry, my family, we will buy all the things before we get married. These few things are already very simple, and the bride price is not too much. After two years, my family has recovered from this difficult period, and we will go back to it again."
Give it to Yanhong."
If these words were put in other people's mouth, everyone would think it was an empty talk, but those words came from Li Zhong, who always spoke his mind, so no one would think it was empty talk.
"No, no, no, Brother Li, we don't dislike you for not spending enough, that's not what we mean..."
Bai Xiulai hurriedly waved her hands and explained that she wanted to buy more things for her daughter and just hoped that she could live a better life. She did not mean to dislike the Li family.
"The in-laws are overly worried. We have no other intention. We just feel that the conditions at home have deteriorated a bit in the past two years, and we really feel wronged by Yan Hong."
When Feng Taizhou saw this, he quickly took Bai Xiu's hand and added: "Captain Li, for our family, these are not problems. Yanhong's happiness is the most important."
Li Zhong nodded, "Don't worry, Lao Feng, our family doesn't treat our daughter-in-law harshly. I promise you, Yanhong will be the same when she is at home."
"As for this boy of mine, if he dares to do anything that would offend Yan Hong, I will be the first one not to agree!"
"Captain Li said this, and we feel relieved. We can trust your words."
The engagement date was set for three days later. Originally, the Li family wanted to reserve a banquet and let the canteen prepare it.
But Bai Xiu felt that the chefs in the canteen were not doing a good job, and the cost of five yuan per table was not a small amount. It was better to cook it at home, where you could eat well and prepare the ingredients yourself and save some money.
But when it comes to this, Ji Shuying is in trouble. She can organize things outside, but she is really not good at things in the kitchen, and there are still more than a dozen tables of meals.
Naturally, Bai Xiu took the initiative and took over the engagement party. Originally, the Li family offered to pay, but Bai Xiu and Feng Taizhou refused.