Chapter Thirty-Eight, Don't Be Abandoned by Others (1)
Lin Yin is twenty-six years old this year, but she does not give the impression that she is very mature. This immaturity certainly does not refer to her body or intelligence, but to her simplicity. She is very beautiful, at least in the eyes of most men, Lin Yin is more beautiful than Xie Xiaoxian
Feminine, oval face with slightly deep eye sockets, big eyes with long eyelashes, she looked a bit weak and helpless, which made me feel pity for her. When I saw her in the tea room, it was obvious that she had just cried, and her eye circles were still red.
Before coming, You Fang was very interested in whether Lin Yin knew the details about Li Qiuping. So after sitting down and not saying a few words, he asked how she and Li Qiuping met, and emphasized that the more detailed the memories, the better. This would be very important for finding Li Qiuping.
The whereabouts of Qiu Ping may be helpful. Lin Yin trusted Xie Xiaoxian very much, and also trusted You Fang without any reservation. With red eyes, she recalled her acquaintance with Li Qiuping with an expression of obsession——
Lin Yin is a native of Ningxiang, Hunan. She graduated from Hunan Normal University in 2006. Her parents asked her uncle who worked in the Guangdong Education Department to find a relationship and join a junior high school in Guangzhou to teach English. Today’s primary and secondary school teachers, especially the main subject teachers, are different from those a few decades ago.
The situation of poor teachers in China is completely different. Not only do they have enviable winter and summer vacations every year, but they also receive good remuneration. If you are willing to make up extra lessons during holidays to earn extra money, there are many opportunities and benefits.
Teachers with "flexible brains" have also learned to take advantage of the social connections of students' parents. It is convenient for them to ask others to do many things. Students' parents often do not dare to offend and have to coax them. Those who teach are responsible and decent people.
Although teachers are hard-working, they have a high social status, are respected, and have a stable income and life. This career is the most suitable for a girl without ambition.
Lin Yin's father is a division-level civil servant, and his mother is also a national cadre. Their family is a very respected and envied family in the local area. Lin's parents originally planned to move in with their daughter after retirement, so they retired in Guangzhou and even bought a house.
Everything about the house was planned. Unexpectedly, the plan did not change quickly. Lin Yin "eloped" with someone after only working for a year. The person who abducted her was of course Li Qiuping.
The first time I met Li Qiuping was in the spring of 2007. Lin Yin’s middle school was also Li Qiuping’s alma mater. At that time, in order to expand the new reading room and sports room, the school held a special social event similar to a thank you party. This time
The star of the event was of course the collector and alumnus Li Qiuping who donated money for the expansion.
Lin Yin, the youngest and most beautiful female teacher in the school, was placed at the head table by the school leaders during the meal. She was told to toast Li Qiuping a few more glasses of wine. At the small social dance after the meal, she was also specifically instructed to ask Li Qiuping to dance a few more times.
Quwu. This approach of school leaders is quite criticized in the society, and usually makes the parties involved very disgusted. However, Lin Yin is very willing and very happy.
In her eyes, Li Qiuping has a successful career, but does not have the superficial habits of the nouveau riche. His intellectual demeanor in conversation is impressive. There is no man who Lin Yin has seen since childhood who can compare with him.
He is handsome, elegant and talented. Not only is he young and promising, but his every move and every word and deed makes people feel trustworthy and dependable. With such a person, it seems that you can safely listen to him for you.
Everything is arranged.
Lin Yin has been a good girl since she was a child. She has obeyed the arrangements of her parents in all her experiences. She has become accustomed to looking for support in her sense of direction in life. This may be the reason why she fell in love with Li Qiuping at first sight. However, the irony is that this paragraph
The relationship later led to the breakdown of her relationship with her parents.
After meeting at the sorority party, Li Qiuping also had a very fond impression of Lin Yin. He fell in love with him almost at first sight. He was a person who would do whatever he wanted. Then he started pursuing him and it was easy to fall in love with him. But this relationship
However, they were firmly opposed by Lin's parents. In their "plan", it was best for their daughter Lin Yin to marry a successful doctor or a judge with a good status. She did not want to be rich, but she wanted a stable life.
,convenient.
Li Qiuping is an antique dealer. Although they heard that the business is doing well, the couple feel unsure because they don’t understand this industry. As for the titles of collector and philanthropist, it makes people even more worried.
Buying fake things and keeping them at home is another way of spending money to buy a good reputation that looks good on the surface.
After hearing the news, Lin's parents made a special trip from Hunan to Guangzhou and asked their daughter to arrange a meeting with Li Qiuping. Lin's father was a bit bureaucratic and liked to show off, and Lin's mother was a little philistine and liked to be sarcastic, but their first impression of Li Qiuping was
The same thing - this man is unreliable and his daughter cannot be with him!
Talking about feelings is secondary. The most important thing is that Li Qiuping was married and has not divorced yet! Li Qiuping told Lin Yin truthfully, and said that both the relationship and the relationship between the couple had broken down long ago, and he promised to divorce himself.
It will be done without Lin Yin having to worry about it. The Lin family's parents firmly stated to their daughter that they did not agree, even if Li Qiuping got divorced, otherwise they would sever the relationship.
As a result, Lin Yin went against her parents' wishes for the first time and still decided to be with Li Qiuping. Not only that, she also obeyed Li Qiuping's arrangement and resigned and went to Beijing. The two lived together as husband and wife. Lin Yin
She didn't really want to break up with her parents. One of the reasons why she did this was that Li Qiuping had promised her that her parents would change their views and accept their relationship in the future.
Lin Yin trusted Li Qiuping very much and believed that he would have a way to "fix" his parents, just like he could fix many other things in life. Three years after arriving in Beijing, Li Qiuping has never divorced, nor has her relationship with her parents.
Improvement, but Lin Yin still believes in him or has become accustomed to trusting him.
Although Li Qiuping is not divorced, Lin Yin has indeed never seen his "wife" appear in life. Divorce should only be a matter of time; on the other hand, Li Qiuping has also arranged their lives to be warm, harmonious and worry-free.
Wuyou has proven her "reliability" to her parents, so it will be a matter of time before she is accepted, right?
Apart from this, Lin Yin was not dissatisfied. After arriving in Beijing, Li Qiuping opened a Qiuyin restaurant named after him and Lin Yin, which made Lin Yin feel very happy. Lin Yin did not go out.
At work, the only petty bourgeois hobby she developed in her family was tea tasting and tea drinking. Li Qiuping specially opened a teahouse for her near Gongzhu’s grave. Lin Yin was nominally the boss, but she didn’t have to worry about running the business.
No matter how much money he expects to earn, Lin Yin can invite friends here to have tea and chat when he is free. This is the teahouse where Lin Yin asked Xie Xiaoxian to meet.
Li Qiuping has a large business and is very busy, but Lin Yin never worries or worries. He often goes to other places to discuss business, but he never forgets to contact Lin Yin in time to report her safety and care about her situation.
He has not been heard from for more than three days. In addition to being career-minded and caring about his "family", he is also a very caring and helpful person who is willing to give his wealth back to the society.
In Beijing, Li Qiuping and Lin Yin donated office equipment to the police, so she met Xie Xiaoxian. In addition, he also donated and built a rural primary school in his and Lin Yin's hometowns. These things are absolutely true, Xie Xiaoxian can testify.
In short, he is a rare good man. If the marriage problem was not complicated, he would be a perfect man. - When Lin Yin recalled Li Qiuping's past, it could be seen from Xie Xiaoxian's expression.
Hearing this, You Fang felt very complicated. He knew the details of Kuanghu very well but couldn't tell him. At this moment, he had to face people's praise of Li Qiuping. This experience has a great impact on a person's mentality.
, people can't help but feel that the world is ridiculous, and even everything that is promoted as beautiful is so hypocritical.
If you have many similar experiences, over time, your views on life and the world may become distorted and extreme, and people may become cynical or indifferent to all rights and wrongs. If you are a teenager who is growing up normally and is new to the world, you may feel
Doubts, and unintentionally become extreme, thinking that they have seen through the bloody world and cold life, and that the world is just like this. Once the concept is mature and finalized, you may live in contradictions and troubles all your life, and you still think that you have real wisdom in life.
Unfortunately, You Fang has seen many such people and things in his experience, and Mad Fox is just one of the most prominent examples. At the same time, he was also lucky enough to have attended a lecture under Wu Pingdong. Mr. Wu specifically answered his questions.
Confused, You Fang remembered a sentence: "Don't ruin things because of others, ruin your opinions because of others, and ruin your actions because of others."
The reason why Li Qiuping is praised by others is because he does act as a philanthropist, not because of his smuggling behavior. The same thing, such as donating to a rural primary school, will not be affected by a change in personal identity.
And changing the original nature of the matter, the world praises this person because the matter itself is worthy of praise, he did what many people want the world to do, and nothing else.
By the same token, donating to a primary school is praiseworthy, but it does not justify excusing grave robbing, even though they were done by one person. This is the so-called "don't let others ruin things".
Everything that Mad Fox experienced was not false. What was false was just the contradictions that Mad Fox embodied in different events. Otherwise, no matter what purpose Mad Fox had, everything he did as Li Qiuping was completely meaningless.
Useless. It can be described with a popular saying - human nature is complicated. But in Mr. Wu's view, there is no need to be so pretentious. In fact, human nature is very simple. The so-called complexity lies in the self-consistency and self-consistency in different situations.
choose.
As for "Don't criticize others, don't stop doing things because of others" also refers to a very common situation: when the world denies a sentence or a behavior, the reason cannot be because of who said it or who did it, only because of who said it or who did it.
You need to look at whether this sentence makes sense and whether this behavior is advisable? The same is true when it is affirmative, otherwise everything will become nihilistic and extreme. This truth is simple to say, but there are too many similar things happening in the world. If you are troubled by this or
There are too many people who are deliberately paranoid for some purpose, and there are many famous historical figures among them.
Because of this, when You Fang heard about Li Qiuping's "deeds", he was not too confused or indignant. Instead, he couldn't help but think of Mr. Wu again. He was sentimental and speechless for a while, but his expression looked very similar to what happened to Li Qiuping later.