In the small building in the backyard, Lady Miaoyin frequently looked up at the hall in front of her. She felt very uneasy. All kinds of miscellaneous thoughts came to her mind. She was always worried that Aye and Li Lang could not live in harmony.
Ms. Cui was sitting in the banquet, carefully reading a gift book, learning various etiquette regulations and matters that need to be paid attention to when her children get married. These things are also very unfamiliar areas to her, but since she has become a householder
Being a mistress is also a responsibility that cannot be avoided.
Last night, Dugu Xin had a detailed chat with Mr. Cui about his plans for the marriage of his children. Only then did Mr. Cui find out that not only the eldest Mrs. Miaoyin, but also the second daughter in the household would be married to the Daxingtai family next year.
Moreover, according to the discussion between Duguxin and Daxingtai, the marriage to Daxingtai must be handled first, and various rituals must begin before Miaoyinju dresses up.
After Mrs. Cui learned this, her mood naturally became a little urgent, and she needed to quickly memorize all the etiquettes. However, Miaoyin was anxiously walking back and forth in front of her table, which made her completely unable to understand it at the moment.
The contents recorded on the gift certificate.
"You lady, you were so confident last night, why are you so nervous and worried today? Is it because you are worried that the Mr. Li family will be willful and will not be loved by you, Aye?"
Ms. Cui simply put down the scroll in her hand, looked at the young lady and said with a smile.
"I, Aye, are neither stupid nor blind, so how can I not like Li Lang? Besides, this matter is that Aye admires Li Lang and was moved first. Mom, you can't see that before Li Lang came,
How anxious is Aye?"
After hearing this, Mrs. Miaoyin quickly shook her head and said, but her face was still gloomy. She sat down close to Mr. Cui and continued: "I heard that there are many considerations about relationships and etiquette in the world. Some people are stingy and don't care.
If he is willing to fill up a woman's dowry, he will look down upon the man's family and be picky to cover up his stinginess and rudeness, which may ruin the destined marriage..."
Mrs. Cui didn't even expect that this young lady would have already worried so much. After hearing this, she was stunned for a moment, then she couldn't help but shook her head and said with a smile: "You young lady is really idle and boring, worrying about other things.
.Although my family has a large population, you always have enough food to make ends meet, so you don’t need to deduct dowry from women to make ends meet!”
"This is by no means a idle thought, it needs to be considered carefully! If the truth is told, I am actually no longer a lady in the household, and the queen in this household no longer has the responsibility to hold a dowry for me.
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Lady Miaoyin frowned slightly and spoke in a calm and unhurried tone. It was obvious that she had been thinking about this matter for a long time.
When she saw Mrs. Cui opening her mouth to speak again, she continued: "Of course, I also know in my heart that Ye Niang does not regard me as a disgusting person who has inherited another family, and is still willing to tolerate me deeply in the household. But this is not the case.
It's just indoors, no matter how much I'm willing to give up for the dowry for the coming year, whether it's rich or frugal, I don't have the right to blame you mother."
Speaking of this, she looked at Mrs. Cui again and said curiously: "Mom, when you came to this household, how much money did the elders of the old household give you? I don't want to pry into the privacy, but I am about to be married.
Things, I can’t help but be curious..."
When Ms. Cui heard this, she couldn't help but look a little embarrassed. Although she and this young lady were mother and daughter, their ages were not large enough to form a generation gap.
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In the past, this little lady was raised in the household, and Mrs. Cui could still act like a stepmother and an elder. However, in recent years, they have not been close enough to each other. When this little lady started to have a romantic interest and began to think about adult issues, Mrs. Cui could not help but feel a lot.
This question is indeed a bit sensitive and embarrassing. If others ask it, Ms. Cui will not pay attention to the other party. However, this young lady obviously does not have too many thoughts and is just simply curious.
Cui and Duguxin were an old married couple, and the legitimate daughter of a famous family had to submit to a military strategist as a step-in-law. Naturally, there were many considerations based on reality.
"At that time, I was far less savvy than a little lady like you, and I already knew how to imagine many things. At that time, men and women of a clan lived in small households, but having a living mouth open for food was a burden. Even the food was not enough.
How can we talk about dowry?"
When talking about her life experience, the Cui family is also full of emotion. Her family has lived in Henan for a long time, and they did not follow Xiaowu when he moved westward. Until the Eastern Dynasty moved the capital to Yecheng, various powerful families in Henan became prime ministers.
Following the uprising, he finally arrived in Kansai.
In the early years of the reign of Emperor Tong, it was difficult to maintain the national economy. Although the imperial court rewarded the righteous families like them with honors and honors, it was just vanity. Living in a foreign land and having no property, the Cui family could not sustain themselves even with food and clothing.
It's definitely not an exaggeration, it's true.
Although her family in Kansai has many relatives and friends, their respective situations are not easy, and such a large family cannot always rely on others for financial support. Cui's uncle Cui Yanmu and Wei Xiaokuan were classmates in Luoxia. A few years ago, Dugu Xin
After being widowed, with the help of Wei Xiaokuan, Cui became Duguxin's step-wife.
Under such circumstances, the Cui family had neither the ability nor the inclination to prepare any dowry for the Cui family. However, they obtained a large amount of money and supplies from Dugu Xin, which greatly improved and changed the family's life.
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When she heard the young lady asking about the dowry, Mrs. Cui was a little embarrassed, but also quite envious. She envied the young lady's calmness in planning the dowry for herself.
Thinking this way does not mean that you are greedy for money and goods. The dowry dowry represents a woman's status and voice in her husband's family to a certain extent. Mrs. Cui felt deeply about this.
Although she is the housewife in name, she actually doesn't have much say in the family affairs. For example, this time, a major event such as the marriage of her children, even if it was not done by Cui, but as the eldest wife of the household, in love,
She should have the right to know and even the right to make decisions.
But what kind of plans and decisions did the husband have, he did not discuss them with her, and even did not even bother to inform her unless there was such an unexpected misunderstanding.
Even so, Ms. Cui had nothing to do about it, and she had no way to fight for her right to speak as a wife. Last night, she even had to rely on the little lady Miaoyin to come forward to smooth things over, so that the misunderstanding between the husband and the host could be resolved.
In the final analysis, even if Ms. Cui was angry that her husband didn't respect her enough, she didn't even have a temporary place to go. She relied on her husband to give her everything she needed for food, clothing, housing, and transportation, so she naturally had no right to make any strange plans.
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"My mother had a really hard time at that time. I still remember that when we first met, my brothers and sisters were unwilling to listen to my mother's teachings. They were not sensible at that time and were afraid of being abused by my mother. Now that I think about it, my mother never disliked us.
These naughty young people are still willing to go to the house for a blind date, which is already very affectionate!"