Early in the morning, many couples had already arrived at the Civil Affairs Bureau.
As soon as Wen Jiu and Lu Jing entered the hall, they saw a large electronic sign hanging in the most conspicuous place, guiding the couples here: in the middle for marriage, on the left for divorce, and on the right for marriage mediation.
The two people went to the middle, and a large gate for checking documents appeared in front of them. They pointed the device code at the identifier on the gate. After verifying their identities, a question immediately appeared on the screen next to the gate:
1. Have you really thought clearly about entering into marriage, assuming marital responsibilities, abiding by the Marriage Law, defending the moral bottom line of marriage, and running a marriage together?
There are two options at the bottom, "Yes" and "No".
Both of them pressed "Yes" in unison.
Then a second question popped up on the screen:
2. Are you planning to have children, or are you a DINK family?
a: Planning to have a child. b: Already conceived a child before marriage. c: DINK.
Both of them hesitated about this question.
Lu Jing had no feelings for children. Even before meeting Wen Jiu, he felt that he would never want children in his life.
Because he was not happy at all before, he was afraid that he could not be a good father and would be as unhappy as himself if he had a child later.
But later when he got together with Wen Jiu, he realized that a family could be so warm and happy, and he really wanted to form a family with Wen Jiu with an atmosphere like hers.
But he still had another troubling point, that is, he had previously understood the various impacts that a woman's childbirth would have on her body and career. Mothers may encounter various dangers during pregnancy.
Therefore, you must respect your wife's wishes whether or not to have children.
Lu Jing hesitated for a long time and looked at Wen Jiu: "Are you alive? I will listen to you."
Wen Jiu was also a little confused.
She thought about when to give birth to the child, then thought about her career plan, and then thought about the training plan for the child...
I was stunned for several minutes without making a choice.
There was a staff member on site who saw the two people struggling and took the initiative to help them.
"Are you stuck on the child?"
Wen Jiu and Lu Jing nodded together.
The staff smiled and said, "Yes, it's rare to see newcomers like you who think seriously about children's issues. Many people just choose randomly."
Wen Jiu asked sincerely: "You can get the certificate by choosing whatever you want? So what is the original intention of setting these questions?"
The staff member said: "Of course it is to protect women and children. Due to biological characteristics, many women have to sacrifice their careers for their families, so they should consider all the consequences before getting married."
Wen Jiu nodded, this is indeed very humane.
The staff member added: "But all we can do is emphasize and remind you in this way. The specific choice must be made with respect for the individual."
Wen Jiu understood and asked again: "Then can I get the certificate after I choose this option? Does it matter if I choose anything else?"
The staff shook their heads: "If you choose DINK, we will issue a certificate and the couple will go to the hospital for contraceptive surgery together. If you choose to have a child, or already have a child, then go for a premarital examination and take a parent qualification exam."
Wen Jiu nodded. No wonder her mother said that they would not be able to get it today. It turns out that there are so many procedures for getting married.
But Wen Jiu still has a question...
I would like to ask those who choose DINK, what should they do if they regret it when they get older?
If you choose to have children, what should you do if your ideas change later and you don’t want to have children?
Just as she was about to ask, a fierce quarrel suddenly came from the mediation area next to her:
Woman: "It can't be adjusted! Do you know how mean he is? When I was young, he kept telling me that he chose DINK to protect me and prevent me from having a child! Now that I am fifty years old, he tells me that he wants to
I want a child! How can my mother give birth to him? If you want to cheat on a young woman, just say so!"
Man: "People's ideas will change. When I was young, I didn't like children, but now I like them, why not? I didn't force you to have children. Didn't I say divorce?"
Mediator: "Okay, now that you two have decided to divorce, let me remind you about the issue of property division after divorce: Because you two chose DINK at the beginning, and both of them had surgery, which party wants to get divorced now?
If the hospital performs surgery, a certificate issued by the center must be obtained.”
Man: "Yes, yes, please open it for me."
Mediator: "Yes, you can, but the proof will be recorded. And in the divorce lawsuit, it will be used as proof for you to compensate the other party for huge losses..."
As soon as she finished saying this, the woman burst out laughing: "Leave! We must divorce! After we divorce, you give birth to your child, and I will be my rich wife!"
The man was instantly frightened: "I still have to think about it again."
Woman: "What a waste of time you think..."
After another quarrel, the two of them started fighting, and many staff members rushed to break up the fight.
Wen Jiu looked away and nodded silently.
Got it.
After choosing DINK, you can also regret it, but if only one party regrets it, they must compensate the other party.
It’s hard to say whether these things can reduce the divorce rate, but they do maintain the fairness of marriage to a certain extent, preventing anyone from being deceived by the sweet talk at the beginning.
But in fact, she doesn't want to have children, it's just that she is still young and wants to develop her career, and she doesn't know when she will have children.
She tentatively asked the staff: "If you choose to have a child, will there be a time limit for the birth?"
The staff shook their heads: "No, I respect your personal plans. You just need to pass the parent qualification exam and get a premarital health check-up."
Wen Jiu nodded and looked at Lu Jing: "Shall we choose to have children?"
Lu Jing also nodded, raising the end of his eyes slightly: "I will listen to you."
The two of them chose a together, and then under the guidance of the staff, they went to another room to take the parent qualification exam.
The two of them sat in front of the computer, and a sentence was displayed on the screen: "The full score of this exam is 100 points, and a passing score of 95 points is required. Only by passing the exam can you get the parent qualification certificate and register your child's household registration. Otherwise, the child will be classified as a black household."
Wen Jiu clicked to confirm, and "Parent Qualification Certificate Examination—Entrance for Mother's Edition and Father's Edition" appeared on the computer.
Wen Jiu clicked on the "Mother's Edition" and Lu Jingding clicked on the "Father's Edition".
Thinking that no one said she couldn't communicate during the exam, Wen Jiu leaned over and took a look: "Let me see what the difference is between my parents' questions."
Most of the previous questions are the same, such as:
——Do you accept that your children are very ordinary and may even be less successful than you are today?
——Do you support your child to live out his life as he wishes? This includes but is not limited to career planning, sexual orientation choices, hobbies, etc.
——Can you do it without placing your unfulfilled dreams on your children?
…
Later, differences began to appear between the mother's version and the father's version of the test paper.
In the mother’s version, some of the questions are as follows:
——Did you know that giving birth to a child may cause a lot of irreversible damage to the body? Including but not limited to stretch marks, body shape, bladder prolapse, and various life risks that may accompany childbirth?
——If you are a working mother, you can finally rest after a hard day's work, but your child is crying in the middle of the night. What would you do?
I have to say that this question really hits home!
Wen Jiu hasn't given birth yet, and she's starting to get scared now.
The father’s version has more problems:
——Will you familiarize yourself with the maternity rules and care for your wife's physical and emotional well-being throughout her pregnancy?
——Are you able to take time to accompany your children every day and avoid widowed parenting?
There are also many wives who have conflicts with their family members and how to take sides.
This is not difficult. His mother has passed away and he has no father. Naturally, there is no need to think about it. He is completely on his wife's side.
There are short answer questions in the final parent version of the exam:
——Why do you want to have children?
——When do you think the best time to have a child is?
etc.
After scanning all the questions, Wen Jiu and Lu Jing both started to answer the questions.
In fact, if the three views are correct, these questions will not be wrong at all.
So both of them knew that this was to remind them of the responsibilities their parents should bear, to go through a process, and not to really make it difficult for them to get married.
After answering the questions, the two of them handed in their papers and waited quietly for the results.