Eight hundred and twentieth nine chapters mentality change
Ye Ming hadn't figured out why Liu Ziliang suddenly stood beside his bed. Liu Ziliang spoke softly again: "Director Ye, I'm sorry for waking you up. I came here sincerely. I apologize to you and hope that Director Ye will forgive me for my presumption and recklessness."
Ye Ming finally came to his senses after hearing Liu Ziliang's words. He stared at Liu Ziliang's face with a slightly frightened expression in confusion. He couldn't figure out what kind of medicine he sold in the gourd and how to answer it. He had to sit in silence. Watch there to see how Liu Ziliang performs next
Liu Ziliang saw Ye Ming's expressionless face and said nothing, thinking that he was still holding a grudge. He felt even more flustered. He suddenly raised his right hand, waved the two "Hetianxia" cigarettes in his hand in front of Ye Ming, and said with a smile. : "Director Ye, I know you like smoking. Just last night when I went back, a comrade came to see me and brought me two cigarettes. I brought them to you today...
"Director Ye, I don't mean anything else. I just felt that the night you came, District Director Yan and I were both a little bit upset. We said some sorry words and did some sorry things to you. And this morning when you called me to invite me to dinner, I was I was discussing with Captain Chen Guitian about apprehending a fugitive murderer with many criminal cases. I was quite anxious, so I said a few angry words at the time. Now that I think about it, I feel very ashamed.
"Later, when Captain Chen Guitian found out that the person who called me was you, Director Ye, he severely criticized me and introduced Director Ye's situation to me in detail, saying that you are a man with big belly, big spirit, courage and knowledge. , a young hero with love and righteousness, who is also an aspiring young man with both civil and military skills, outstanding abilities, and a bright future. After listening to his criticism of me and his introduction to you, I really felt regretful. Captain Chen said at that time that I was blind-sighted. I think these two sentences are absolutely correct.
"At that time, Captain Chen asked me to call you to apologize and ask for your understanding, but I didn't do so. I felt: I have done so many things to apologize to Director Ye and said so many things to say I am sorry to Director Ye. Just making a phone call is far from enough." To express my regret and sincerity in apologizing, I hurriedly took two bites of rice after the team meeting this morning and rushed over to you without stopping. I hope Director Ye will take my sincerity into account. Forgive me for my ignorant actions and rude words in the past. I will treat you as my biological brother from now on. If anyone dares to do anything to your brother again, my surname is Liu, who is the first one not to be angry with him."
Liu Ziliang's lengthy apology and compliments made Ye Ming get goosebumps all over his body. Especially when Liu Ziliang said that he was "sighted but blind" and "scornful of others", he almost couldn't help but "chip". laugh out loud
But he knew: no matter how disgusting Liu Ziliang's words were, no matter how they made his skin crawl, no matter how ridiculous, he could never show an expression of boredom or ridicule on his face.
Because during this period of time, he has been reflecting on some of the fundamental reasons why he was not suitable for being in the officialdom and why he could not be promoted. One of the fundamental reasons he thought was very fatal was that he would not cater to and compliment his superiors, and he could not stand those who Flatterers can't stand hearing flattery.
But in the real official world, Ye Ming realized that if you don't understand and cater to the leader's intentions, you don't say good things to the leader in a timely manner, and you don't bow your head in front of the leader, then the leader won't pay attention to you at all. If I value you, I won’t be able to promote you or reuse you.
Of course, this is not absolute compared to most leaders. Some leaders, such as Li Runjiji, may not belong to this type. However, officials like Li Jiji are in the minority after all, so my view is still valid.
Correspondingly, if you want to be a leader, you must be able to listen to all kinds of words: first of all, you must be able to listen to the words of criticism. This is the basic cultivation and tolerance of a leader. Secondly, for subordinates, No matter how disgusting and goosebump-inducing these flattering words and compliments are, you must have the patience and courage to listen. And this is actually a kind of self-cultivation, because once you become an official, you must You will encounter situations where your subordinates flatter you. If you blindly hate this kind of behavior and blindly reject this kind of behavior, your subordinates will think that you are pretending to be aloof, feel that you are unapproachable, or even think that you are impersonal, so they are likely to alienate you. If you keep a respectful distance from you, your "noble behavior" that cannot be flattered by flattery may inadvertently offend many subordinates, and may turn you, the leader, into a "loner"...
It is precisely because he has figured this out that Ye Ming is now gradually able to tolerate those flattering behaviors and is gradually able to take the initiative to lower his posture to cater to the intentions of his superiors. Although he feels a little ashamed and a little embarrassed for his change, he knows this It is the path of psychological transformation that I must go through after entering the officialdom. I must do it even though I know I cannot do it...
For example, when Liu Ziliang said such disgusting words to himself that made his skin crawl, if it had been two years ago, he would definitely not have bought his fault and might even have ridiculed him.
But now his mentality was different, so he tried his best to control the disgust in his heart towards Liu Ziliang's words. After he finished speaking, he deliberately pondered for a moment, then showed a smile and said unhurriedly: "Captain Liu, you are exaggerating." If I cared about your original attitude towards me, I wouldn’t have taken the initiative to call you to invite you to dinner this morning, right? This is what I think: We are both classmates, and you, Captain Liu, are my seniors, and you are still mine in terms of position. Leader, so I should respect you and take the initiative to build a good relationship with you. This will also help us get along under the same roof in the future, right?
"What's more, I'm also good friends with Captain Chen Guitian of your Criminal Investigation Corps. We've had drinks together many times, and I'm also very familiar with you, Director Guo. Since you and Captain Chen are in the same unit, we are even closer to each other in the same department. The reason is that we have the foundation to become good friends. So although there are some minor disputes and misunderstandings between us, you and I are both men and men will never be upset about such a minor incident. Please keep my phone number in mind. That’s why I drink alcohol haha”